I guess to make a long story short, she was trying to stand up for my two SIL’s who felt slighted because they thought they were being left out since the other girls were my old college and HS friends, and they didn’t know any of them before the wedding. Basically, both SIL’s have a lot of growing up to do. One is downright mean…she turned to me in the middle of the wedding with a big fake smile on her face and said “Wow, you must be uncomfortable you look like you’re just about to burst out of that dress”. She’s also made numerous other mean comments to me throughout the years that I’ve known her. I basically ignore it because I just chalk it up to insecurity. The other has just been babied her whole life, and gets her feelings hurt if anyone even looks at her the wrong way.
I tried so hard during the whole wedding planning to be cognizant of them and their penchant for drama. I made sure to take both of them shopping with me for everything, which I didn’t bother even asking my other 4 bridesmaids, so they wouldn’t be upset by what bridesmaids dress I chose. I was super careful to put them in the correct order in the bridal processional because I knew that would be drama if they were last, even though I had to put my closer friends at the end. Basically, i tried to side step every opportunity I saw for them to lash out.
I had given all of the bridesmaids a detailed itinerary a few weeks in advance of the wedding that told them exactly where to be and when. SIL’s were the only ones who insisted on leaving the salon the second their hair was done rather than waiting for the group, and when I contacted them to meet back up for lunch, they ignored me. Well, then they lied and said that I never told them anything at all, and me and my friends were intentionally leaving them out. Then they ran to his mom (for the record, these are 23 and 26 year old adult women acting like this) and got her all riled up about it and that’s what led her to her fit.
That’s when she stormed down to the bridal suite ranting and raving…I told her I could show her all the messages/emails/call log that prove that I had informed them of the events and tried to contact them during the day she basically called me a liar and told me she didn’t care what I showed her and because she wouldn’t believe me even if she had proof, and would absolutely not stand for me defending myself (for the record I’ve known this woman for 4 years, and have never been anything but kind and honest with her so the way she attacked my character was really a punch in the gut that I didn’t think I deserved)…she then screamed at my other bridesmaids calling them a bunch of b**tches, and told them all to go f themselves (not exaggerating…if anything I’m leaving most of her bad behavior out). Then, the SIL’s who had caused all the drama refused to come down and participate in anything (just like they had refused to participate in everything earlier in the day)…I still don’t know what they were trying to accomplish with that.
My photographer was super sweet, and calmed me down after Mother-In-Law left, and she said that it was the worst behavior she had ever seen at any wedding shoot…she also had done the photo’s for my SIL’s wedding last year and said that Mother-In-Law had an outburst at that wedding as well (I wasn’t in the bridal party, so I didn’t witness it).
After she finished screaming at us, Mother-In-Law went upstairs and cried hysterically to everyone that was there, at which point my DH went up to her and said that she needed to cut the crap immediately because it was in no way the time and place for her to act like that. After she cooled down, she apologized later in the night but like I said I’m struggling to let it go emotionally. We live far away, so fortunately it’s easy for me to get the space I need…but this new request from her just bothered the crap out of me after everything.