(Closed) Is this inappropriate??

posted 6 years ago in August 2013
  • poll: should I hand out the stds or wait a while?
    Go ahead and pass out the stds to them to save on postage : (3 votes)
    3 %
    No wait let people grieve : (83 votes)
    97 %
  • Post # 3
    2959 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I definitely would wait.

    Post # 4
    5800 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think this would come off poorly. Plus how much would you actually save? $20? Not worth it

    Post # 5
    2440 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think it’s fine to mail them out this week, I think it’s inappropriate to hand deliver them to people at a funeral or the surrounding time around the funeral.

    Post # 8
    635 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Definitely mail them out after this week is over. The price of postage is nothing compared to the very real risk of looking inappropriate (at best) to your loved ones.

    Post # 9
    1084 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Oh my goodness, please wait!!!


    Post # 10
    8041 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I don’t see why it would be SO bad to give them out the day that they leave. She had a long, good life, right? She would have wanted you to bring some joy to your family members, and I think save the dates are a happy thing so wouldn’t come off as looking tacky. Just my 2 cents, though.


    Post # 12
    7560 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Going to the post office can be a real pain but still…I would wait. 

    Post # 13
    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I’m sorry for your loss.  Definitely wait, it will be more respectful.

    Post # 14
    2622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    .45 * 200 = $90.

    So if you have 200 guests you are saving $90 dollars. Its not worth it. If it were me, from a purely logistical point of view, I would lose the card before I got home. My mind would be on other things.

    Its better to mail it.

    Post # 15
    2273 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I would wait… I had a lot of family members ask to see my engagement ring (been engaged for 3 months when he died) at my dad’s funeral and i thought that was in bad taste. If someone handed out Save-The-Date Cards i would’ve probably lost it at them… the days surrounding a funeral are a little tense – plus i wouldnt have wanted my STD to be associated with a death (cos even if you wait til the day they leave they were still there due to a death)

    Post # 16
    5001 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would wait until January/February.

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