(Closed) Is this inconsiderate?

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
46605 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

a_day_at_the_fair:  There is never a guarantee that any bride will purchase her dress at any particular store. Just tell them you are just starting to try on dresses and don’t know what styles you will like. Most salons require that you make an appointment though.

Post # 3
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: Dreams Resort and Spa, Puerto Aventuras, Mexico

I don’t think it’s inconsiderate, but be prepared to fall in love with something (as in, don’t try on anything over budget)! I only tried on 6 dresses before I found “the one”, and it was the first one that the consultant pulled. A good consultant will size up your style the moment that you walk in, and will get you in the perfect dress.

Post # 4
1069 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

a_day_at_the_fair:  Look at it this way – you don’t KNOW you won’t want to buy anything there. There may be a sample or a discontinued line that is in your price range and perfect for your needs, or perhaps you will fall in love with something and decide saving up the money is worth it. At this stage you are basically window shopping, and if they do their job well enough you may actually end up being a customer. So go in, try on a few things and weigh up the options. You never know what you will find, and they have a better chance of making you a customer once you are in their store than if you avoid it. So I don’t think it’s inherently unfair to them for you to look – many brides go to 3 or 4 stores and have multiple appointments before purchasing anyway.

Post # 5
2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t think this would be inconsiderate at all. After all, it’s rare for anyone to know what sort of wedding dress will suit them since it’s not exactly an everyday purchase! So it really is quite usual to go into bridal shops and try on a range of styles and also not need to feel that you are obligated to buy any of them. As pps have said, you may well discover the perfect dress in a shop. Who knows? But you can’t make an informed decision to buy anything without the chance to try on different styles first.

Post # 6
7271 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think it’s inconsiderate. When I was searching for dresses I made appointments at three different salons. Obviously I wasn’t going to purchase something at all three but I wanted to shop around and see plenty of options.

Post # 7
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Originally, my cousin was going to make me a custom dress (as her wedding gift to me–it was an amazing offer!). Based on my online searches, I hadn’t found any dress that had everything I was looking for. I went dress shopping to make sure the style I had in mind actually looked good on me. Then the consultant pulled the perfect dress. I called my cousin to tell her, and she said just get the perfect dress (I then went back and had an appointment with the same consultant who had pulled it so she could get the commission).

So I don’t think it’s inconsiderate, but be prepared to possibly find the perfect dress and want to just buy a dress at the store!

Post # 8
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

I think people who go to salons to take pictures, be looky-loos, or get ideas for what they want Jasmine Dress Shop to make them are inconsiderate. Rude and classless, even. It’s not fair at all to people who work on commission, who will spend an hour with you at their job when they might have been helping a customer who would, y’know, actually buy something.


That said, when I went dress shopping, I didn’t know whether I’d find my dream dress or not. I went with an open mind that if I found The One, I’d buy it, and if I didn’t, I’d go someplace else. So at least they had a CHANCE of making a sale. If you’re open to doing that, then I’d say no, shopping around for something that flatters your figure isn’t inconsiderate.

Post # 9
1499 posts
Bumble bee

I wouldn’t say it’s inconsiderate. I can’t even say for sure if all the bridal stores have their employees work on commission. There were a few places I went into where I was definitely not the priority, and felt like I was my own consultant… if they wanted my money, they didn’t try hard for it. 

So I would just go. You can tell them that it’s your first time shopping so you aren’t entirely sure what you’re interested in yet. You never know, you could fall in love with a dress that’s a real bargain too. 

But do as PP suggests and don’t try on anything over budget! You may end up regretting it.

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