(Closed) Is this my wedding or yours???

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1846 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think your plans sound really nice, not boring at all, just intimate and special. 

Do you think your dad will still give you the money even if you’re not using it for the wedding? Not that it matters, as that shouldn’t affect your decision, I’m just wondering.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think it sounds lovely.  Is your fiance happy?  If so, then to use my new favorite phrase that I totally stole from someone on the Bee….they can take a long walk off a short pier.

Post # 7
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1129 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It’s your wedding, do what you love!

But I’d also consider my mom and dad, it’s an important event for them too.

I am not saying to do what they want, never! But maybe try to make them a little more confortable with the idea by making them a part of it some how. 

Just a thought 🙂 

I hope everything goes well with you!

Post # 8
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@echolove:  So we’ve already established that we’re pretty much having the same wedding (on the same date!) At first, my family was weird about the new, smaller, untraditional wedding plans. When I said we weren’t having cake, but pie instead, Mother-In-Law was appalled. We’re not doing music either, except for some Frank Sinatra tunes as background music.

Cue: “You mean there won’t be any garter toss or money dance or cake face smashing?” My response was “No, there won’t be any of that. But we are getting married, and it will be intimate, romantic, and memorable.”

What I did was show my mother my Pinterest board. She saw how unique, special, and personal a small wedding could be. I also showed her http://www.intimateweddings.com and soon she was really excited. She’s all about the small, family dinner now. It’s less stress anyway!

Do what makes you happy, and you won’t be sorry 🙂 Stay strong!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@AnaA:  1+ I agree

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@echolove:  Oh well :/ My mum wasn’t exited about my wedding either actually. She hanged up the phone everytime we talked and called my fioncé names and all sort of things. But then we got to talk and everything is great now! She’s really exited and giving me ideas. So there is hope! Don’t give up! As BeeandBeeBride27 said: Stay strong! 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@echolove: 

oh yeah. My situation is so similar to yours and now that our wedding is next week, both of our parents keep saying “we are so happy how simple and stress free this is.” I mean, I’m still nervous and junk, but it really is nice. It went from hurtful words (leaving me in tears last year) to everybody so freaking excited that we are getting married. People will grow on it. We are going to an amazing restaurant with 25 guests and I couldnt be happier.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@echolove:  I’m with you.  The best weddings I’ve ever attended were small and intimate.  I just feel like you get more out of it.  I can talk to the bride and groom.  I can sit close enough to hear their vows.  I get to catch up with people without hunting through a crowd of 300 people for them.  

I think that you should invite people in your life to your wedding.  If that means your second cousin Suzie who you haven’t seen since your family reunion five years ago doesn’t make the cut, so be it.  I just think it’s crazy to spend all that money on people you never see.  Obviously, this is just my opinion.  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@echolove:  Maybe this situation will help her to grow up and realize she isn’t a kid anymore. Who knows. I know you must feel really stressed and not supported, but don’t focus on your mom. Look at your fionce, the rest of your family, your close friends and there you’ll find strenght. Remember that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger! And hopefully this will all be for the better! 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@echolove:  Oh, I’m very sorry to hear that. She sounds a lot like my dad (but there’s way more background than that; he is SO not invited). You seem to have a great head on your shoulders, and I hope you don’t take her critcisms too seriously. She clearly is more focused on herself than you and your FI’s happiness.

I promise you, your wedding will be beautiful because of the love that is there, and it will NOT be boring!

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