(Closed) Is this normal?

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think it is pretty normal, but my guy is very involved. I always come up with 2-3 ideas for things, and have him decide which one he likes best. It keeps in the know, and he feels like he’s helping 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have told FH about every wedding detail, I’ve even (tried) to ask his input on things. He should know what are plans are but I’ve been with him when people ask about things and he’ll say he doesn’t know. He wants to get married but really has no interest in the actual ‘wedding plans” so it wouldn’t surprise me if FH gave an answer like that!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m finding that it seems to be normal that the groom has no clue what’s going on.  But I would like to think that if you were to ask the non-involved guy specific but general questions he would be able to answer…like what are your colors and stuff like that. 

I think my Fiance could do our without my help at all, he’s been so involved and doesn’t mind when I rattle on and on about wedding stuff 🙂

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

he might not care? Maybe he would just rather leave the wedding planning up to his Fiance and as long as he doesn’t have to wear a powder blue suit he’s happy?

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

most grooms are “NID” not into details. its more common nowadays that grooms are involved usually because most couples pay for their own weddings now. most of the time when the bride’s parents paid – the mother of the bride and bride would plan most of it hence the blank stares from grooms about what the wedding was like

i personally love that my fiance has an opinion (unless its not the same as mine and i really want something!) about things and “sort of” helps out with the planning but often i get a “what ever makes you happy” statement when i ask about something so while yeah my FH wouldnt have a blank stare if he was asked, he doesnt know TONS of the little tiny details either.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I know from reading these boards that it is normal.  But, if my Fiance didn’t act interested in the wedding, I’d be upset.  We’ve done everything together- finding the officiant, caterer, DJ, venue.  I’d say we’ve done equal amounts of research too.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

To me thats NOT normal…but thats me…my fiance is involved with everything…he even helped me pick out stationary and never misses a wedding related meeting. I value his opinions and suggestions on everything…and when people ask him about the wedding he goes on and on about it because he is so excited about it.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My FH isn’t into researching all our options and making the best decision, so I do the researching. But we make most of the decisions together. So he knows a lot about our wedding– but probably doesn’t know much about the flowers though, lol.

I’m of the mind that it’s not my day, it’s our day. (Which I’m sure a lot of you feel the same way.) And I couldn’t plan such an important days in our lives without his input and enthusiasm.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Fiance likes to pretend that he’s not interested in planning, but everytime I come up with an idea, he’s ready with an opinion. I wanted to change our colors from blue and white to green and yellow, and he acted like I kicked a puppy.

Apparently, he had ‘already started imagining’ the wedding with the blue and white, so I can’t change it on him now :). It’s cute, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I would be really offended if he had no idea what the colors were.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think, maybe, he was just being funny. At least he knows the date, time and location.  😉  They know it is the day that we, girls, have been dreaming since we were little. My Fiance supportive and give me suggestions.  

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