Post # 1
Hi everyone! I may just be freaking out a bit or a little oversensitive at the moment but I just had to ask about this. I have been dating “D” for almost 7 years and he finally proposed to me on the 22nd! Yay..right.. But he did not get to propose to me the way he wanted to because of time conflicts with his work. He had planned to propose on the 23 but had to do it a day earlier because he said he wanted to do it before Christmas and would not be able to the next day.. I ask him if it was alright to tell my friends and he said yeah, so of course I began to blab to everyone!! (7 years of waiting for this!) Well, when I talk to him on the phone later he acts normal until I say that someone told me to tell him that they said congrats, then he just says “ok”.. I ask him why he didnt seem as excited as I was and he said, “Well, I have had the ring for 2 months and thought about it everyday so I have become used to it because it has been a daily thought in my mind for so long.” Is it normal for me to be flipping out and him to act so nonchalant about the engagement. Granted it has been only one day, I’m acting like an idiot aren’t I……? Maybe he is still soaking it all in that it has actually happened…
Post # 3
I wouldn’t worry 😛 Is he normally an enthusiastic person? If not, no amount of happiness is going to make him match your outward excitement. He’s probably just relieved that the “asking” is over and the nerves are setting in. Enjoy your engagement and congrats!!!
Post # 4
I can see my SO just saying “okay” in response to me saying that someone said congrats. I would only worry if he wouldn’t ever talk about setting your wedding date or if he didn’t show any signs of being happy to be engaged to you. Just that one comment shouldn’t be a big deal tho.
Post # 5
My Fiance is really laid back about stuff like that too, especially since we have been together for six years and living together for almost five. To be honest in his opinion we practically are married so the engagement is just a formality.
I wouldn’t worry about it too much. If he got you a ring and put a little thought into timing and proposal then obviously he cares about the engagement, he just isn’t a ball of jumping up and down emotion like you. 🙂
Post # 6
Yeah I don’t think that this is a big deal either :).
Post # 7
Thanks everyone!! I guess I was expecting him to be a giggles like me but that is soo not him! Im glad that I registered for this site! Y’all have made my stress level drop.. Ha!
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s a big deal. honestly I was like your FH sounds after engagement. FH was excited. I’m just a more level person than he is and don’t get emotional easily. It makes sense he’d respond in this way if he’s been thinking about it for months 😉 His ‘wow, it’s so new’ excitement is old by now. No worries.
Post # 9
Totally normal. I didn’t get my ring for months after we had ordered it and when it finally got here my Fiance wasn’t as excited… He was excited but not like me. It’s a man thing I think. Right now you should just be soooo excited because it’s new for you! And congrats by the way! I want to see te ring 🙂