(Closed) Is this normal?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
5089 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@MsATC:  Though one guest did circle “scrod” and write “Not a word” with an arrow. Hrm.

:O WTF?!?!?!?! That is amazing.


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@MissNachoLover:  Your cards were perfectly fine, but I don’t see why it’s “tacky” of people to ask for more detail to help them choose? At any rate, I agree that putting more info on the website is a good response!

Post # 18
3679 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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….? You should never invite someone to only the ceremony and not the reception.

Our venue needs to know entree choices ahead of time. We also have to mark the escort cards with each person’s entree choice, so we need to know what everyone wants far ahead of time. The RSVP card is the perfect place to do that.

Post # 19
3337 posts
Sugar bee

I think your card was fine, but that it is also fine for people to ask. 


Post # 20
575 posts
Busy bee

The last card we received was a little more descriptive with “chicken au poivre” or “horseradish-encrusted beef,” but I would say your cards are fine.

I don’t think it’s rude for people to ask for more details about the meal though. With food allergies, and lactose intolerance and stuff, it can be an important decision for some.

Post # 21
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

@MissNachoLover:  Should we have been more descriptive?  I feel like it’s kind of tacky that they are asking.  

Well, if you didn’t want people asking for more detail, then yes, you should have been more descriptive!  LOL!  

I don’t think it’s tacky for them to ask for clarification..  I think you’re looking at it from the perspective of them deciding which will taste better, like a “Nah, I don’t like fried chicken, so I’ll go will the steak,” kind of thing.  In reality, they may be asking for health reasons.  Perhaps if it’s fried chicken, they need to avoid that.  Or like me: I have a tomato allergy.  I LOVE tomato sauce, but it doesn’t love me back.  So if I selected “chicken” on the card and then come the reception, Chicken Marinara was placed in front of me….well, if I ate it I would be spending half the night in the bathroom.  Fun party!  

So definitely elaborate on your website.  It’s only a couple minutes of your time to do so, and could save you some time fielding calls, or save your guests from gastrointestinal upset! Laughing

Post # 23
2135 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think that it is tacky for people to ask at all. Sometime the description could change peoples mind! For example, I am serving herb stuffed chicken and pork loin roasted with apples at my wedding. Knowing this, I choose the pork. However if I was a guest and just saw ‘pork’ or ‘chicken’, I would choose chicken.

Not tacky or rude at all to ask, IMO.

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