Post # 1
So our reception is April 28th (Sunday). We’re having a small weddingmoon that we leave for on Friday, and I just checked our registries (BBB, Kohl’s and Crate & Barrel) and noticed that not a single thing has been bought off of any of them! We didn’t have a shower due to our small weddingmoon, but I noticed that pretty much everyone has RSVP’ed and there are about 100 views of our wedding website, so I know people have seen it. I did receive one gift card in the mail so far, but no gifts. Shouldn’t things be disappearing off the registry by now? Not to sound greedy, I’m in no way expecting a gift from anyone, but I kind of figured most people would buy one. Fi and I are in desparate need of essentials and are very low income.
Post # 3
I dont know the back story, but If you’re “in desperate need of essentials” then perhaps the funds you are spending on the wedding should have been used to buy said essentials.
Not everyone will give a gift, especially if it’s a semi-DW. Some People will assume because they are spending money to travel to your event that the don’t necessarily need to give a gift.
Some others will just give money.
Some others will buy the gift the day before,bor the day of.
My point is, don’t count on any gifts and if you get any, be thankfull.. But you shouldn’t be expecting your wedding guests to provide you with the essentials you desperately need.
Post # 4
In my region, it’s common to give money at the wedding. Very few people bring boxed gifts. I’ve also heard that the majority of things on registries get purchased like the day before and day of, because most people don’t think of it until then.
You also have to be prepared that people might not give gifts. I wouldn’t show up empty-handed, but judging by the number of posts there are about guests not bringing gifts, not everyone feels that way. Some people may choose not to gift because they weren’t invited to the actual wedding.
Post # 5
I got most of the things I registered for at the shower and the wedding is in a couple weeks and the last few things on the registry haven’t been bought. I don’t think it’s customary to buy registry items for the wedding, just for showers. My friends that didn’t have showers and just weddings didn’t even register. That is also why you shouldn’t include registry info in wedding invites and just shower invites, because the registry is mainly for the shower. If I were you I wouldn’t hold out for your guests to buy anything off of the registry, if you get gifts they will probably be mostly cash and checks.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t worry about it. Lots of people buy gifts last minute. I probably wouldn’t purchase anything for your wedding until 1 or 2 days before. Cash is also a very popular gift. If are having a DW/semi-DW then I bet that’s what most people will give since it can be a pain to transport gifts.
Post # 7
@FortiesFlare: Actually we’re not paying for our wedding, my mom is. And the reception is not a Destination Wedding, it’s in our hometown. The actual wedding is overseas, but we have very few guests attending.We certainly don’t “expect” anyone to buy us a gift, as stated in original post.
@cmbr: Thanks! I’ve never really been to a wedding beyond when I was a kid, so I have no idea how these things work! I will be grateful for anything given, and definitely won’t be upset if people don’t bring gifts, I just thought it was so odd. 🙂
Post # 8
Very few people bought us a registry gift for our wedding – we got mostly cash. The vast majority of our registry gifts were bought as engagement gifts or for shower gifts. People typically purchase the week of the event, if not a few days before or after. You technically have up to a year to give a wedding gift.
Post # 9
@MrsWBS: Thanks Ladies! That’s super helpful… like I said, I just haven’t been to many weddings so this is all new to me. 🙂
Post # 10
I only got two or three physical gifts at my wedding. The rest was cash.
Post # 11
Many people buy gifts at the last minute, like the week or even day leading up to your wedding. I’d try not to fret yet. Additionally, some people just give cards+checks at all weddings they attend.
Post # 12
We got the majority of gifts and cash/checks at either the shower or the wedding. Most people are procrastinators who put it off until the day before. I wouldn’t stress about it.