Is This Normal Child Behavior?

posted 10 months ago in Weddingbee
Post # 33
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

sallyloves90 :  You’re talking about a 5 year old here. That sentence is completely uncalled for.

I only have a 1 year old, but this child’s behavior doesn’t scream “normal” to me either. Is it possible she’s been acting out more because of the new baby? Or has she always been this way? I agree with PPs that enforcing your own personal boundaries with this girl is not the same as disciplining her. I have no problem telling friends’ kids when they’ve crossed a line with me. 

Post # 34
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Worker bee

llevinso :  Uhh….if I would have acted that way at 5 years old, I would have got my ass beat and you better believe I would not have acted that way again.

Post # 35
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

sallyloves90 :  I didn’t act that way and I never had a hand laid on me 🤷🏻‍♀️

You don’t need to “beat” a child to enforce rules

Post # 36
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

sallyloves90 :  Beating a child’s ass isn’t the only way to discipline them. There are actually numerous studies about how that kind of “discipline” actually does way more harm than good. You’re not even talking about spanking. You’re talking about abuse. The language you’re using referring to a CHILD is gross. 

Post # 37
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Helper bee

sallyloves90 :  you may not have acted that way again, but you did grow into an adult who thinks okay to beat the shit out of a kid.

OP, in my opinion it’s totally normal kid behaviour… but MAYBE bad behaviour on her mother’s part. She obviously seems like she needs a bit more discipline, but she also may have some developmental or behavioural issues that her mother may not feel comfortable discussing with you.

Post # 38
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87 posts
Worker bee

Give me a break

Post # 39
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247 posts
Helper bee

sallyloves90 :  give the kid a break. She’s five and misbehaving, and you think she deserves to be beaten for that… while also thinking that YOU deserve a break from people calmly and respectfully disagreeing with you wanting parents to hit their kids? Please. 

Post # 40
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Busy bee

That is ROUGH. I draw the line when it comes to touching my body/property/food. She was running around with your phone, what if she had broken it? Would mom have offered to replace it? I highly doubt it. I agree with PP’s saying you need to state your boundaries firmly with the child and there is nothing wrong with sticking your arm out to prevent them from getting within arm’s length of you if they are all up in your personal bubble. 5 year olds are beyond able to understand this when they’ve had parents that teach them. I would have definitely mentioned something to Jennifer like “Wow she’s a handful eh. My sister/ friend/ cousin’s kid was like that so they had to start being more firm and giving boundaries and she’s such a sweet little girl now” but that’s just how I’d be if it was one of my best friends. 

ETA: When you state your personal boundaries to the child if she’s pestering you make sure Jennifer can hear them too. 

Post # 41
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Worker bee

This is ludicrous. Are you kidding me? First of all, yes..it is “normal” for a kid to act the way Abigail is acting. Why is this “normal” you ask? Because it is NORMAL for a kid who does not have discipline or boundaries! Lets not go to dramatics here, you all know “ass beat” is a figure of speech and I am not meaning literally beat the shit out of a child. If you think giving a kid a smack on the butt is more destructive to a child than letting them run wild and simply saying “OK ABIGAIL NOW IF YOU DON’T SIT DOWN YOU WILL HAVE YOUR TABLET PRIVELAGES TAKEN AWAY!” and then of course, not even sticking to that, then you are dead wrong. A 5 year old cannot be reasoned with like an aduilt, period. I suppose none of you who think I am a monster were ever raised in a Mexican household like I was where that shit DID NOT FLY. I was not abused, I was kept in line and taught to behave-unlike Abigail. Obviously whatever “discipline” Jennifer is using is not working. No manches guey!!!!!!!!!!!

Post # 42
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290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

Definitely normal behavior for a 5 year old with bad parenting and starving for attention.  I’d probably just start declining any invitations that include the daughter.  I am not sure what else you can do. 

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

i have two sisters who have kids the exact same age.  Both kids are AMAZING and so loveable and all around great kids.  However, one sister is very aware of her kid.  If he is acting up, she takes care of the situation.  For her kid, I say nothing when he acts up because I know it will be taken care of.  The other sister is so engrossed in her phone 99.9999% of the time, she doesn’t care what her kid is doing.  That poor child is so attention starved and just wants to play and be a little boy!  He’s a very sweet and surprisingly well behaved child (given his lack of structure), but on the rare instances he acts out, or if he’s playing too rough, I’ll definitely say something and step in. 

Post # 44
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Busy bee

sallyloves90 :  So your rude responses on your other thread tell me all I need to know about how you turned out. Treat a five year old like they can’t be reasoned with, and they turn into adults who can’t be reasoned with. 

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee

If you look at her posting history or had any interactions on here with her you can clearly see her only motive on these boards is to stir drama. People need to stop commenting on any posts she creates and or replying to her comments on threads. 

 

techmom :  

Post # 46
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Sansa85 :  Thank you for saying that. 

As has been stated already, we ALL agree that children need proper discipline, but every study has concluded that corporal punishment is NOT effective in the ways we want it to be. Striking a child teaches them nothing except that violence is the way to get what they want, which only perpetuates the cycle of abuse.

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