Is This Normal Child Behavior?

posted 3 months ago in Weddingbee
Post # 62
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Sugar Beekeeper

While environmental influence and lack of discipline can obviously lead to bratty behavior, TBH many of the children of this age I’ve seen who were this extreme went on to be diagnosed with developmental issues, for example ADHD. 

Even children who have an organic reason for hyperactivity or impulsive behavior need to have appropriate limits, though it can be a long road. 

I would not put up with the things you describe or keep putting myself in that situation tbough. 

Post # 63
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Sugar bee

I managed to raise 2 children to adulthood without ever hitting them, so obviously I’m in the anti-spank category. In the instance described in the initial post, the child should have been immediately removed from the situation and not allowed the privilege of going to a restaurant if she can’t behave herself. I can’t stand parents who sit there and watch their kid act like a jerk and do nothing about it. Behavior like that wasn’t tolerated with my kids. And I was no pushover. My husband is tall and broad shouldered and my son’s friends expressed that perhaps they should be afraid of him. My son responded, “Don’t be afraid of my dad, be afraid of my mom.” It’s totally possible to be strict without getting physical with a child.

Post # 64
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Helper bee

sallyloves90 :  As many other commentators have noted, spanking is a bad way of disciplining children. Research suggests it makes children MORE likely to misbehave, and MORE likely to grow into adults who are aggressive/commit crimes/do poorly in school etc. 

We would think an adult who dealt with their frustration with another adult by hitting them was a terrible person. That’s precisely what spanking models for children. 

Here is some basic research, if you are interested. 

https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/2017/08/16/harmful-effects-spanking-toddler-can-trigger-bad-behavior-even-10-years-later/562203001/

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/11/05/health/spanking-harmful-study-pediatricians.html

https://www.ajc.com/news/national/another-study-confirms-that-spanking-bad-for-children/L5PD9aBWj2zzau5xAyGLwJ/

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/11/spanking-kids-effective/574978/

https://theconversation.com/why-parents-should-never-spank-children-85962

 

Post # 65
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

personaperson :  there is good news, a moderator posted in her thread about spanking that this user account is associated with a few others who were created just to rile up the community.

So, she’s not real

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