- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
sorry. looking for some responses from the older experinced encore bee’s..
My Fi is very friendly with his ex-w. I knew this when we started dating and I have established some boundaries like her not calling every night over every little thing or calling him to help with the computer. etc.
In the beginning he would fight me on the boundaries. said he wanted to be friends with her.. for the kids. he always stuck up for her and always sided with her.
as of the last while he is much more about supporting of me and my feelings and has been great at gently creating boundaries with her.
They have been seperated over 4 years now. He is really nice to her. never rude or mean.
when she gets upset with him he acts like a heartbroken boyfriend!
The other day he told he we would like to order our own set of school pictures for the kids from now on as we know what we need. (she usually does all this stuff and just tells him how much money to give her)
she gets all upset and snity with him (they were texting) he goes into the kitchen and calls her 3 times!! she wont answer.. then she finally calls and first thing out of his mouth as he is walking out of the room is …are you upset with me? (in a concerned voice) holy!! what is that about????
She cried to him for about 15 min’s after 10 I go into the kitchen and he looks so sad! then she tells him she has to go and he says okay…
I talk to him about how silly a thing for her to get all wound up about and he was perfectly nice to her. He says its his fault. he should have told her sooner we wanted to order our own pictures.
He is much more tolerant of her than me, when they fight it is always his fault when we fight its always my fault.
he walks away when we argue he listens to her rant forever.
am I missing something?? am I being blind?
One day I think he loves me and he says he wants to spend his life with me but every once in awhile I feel he has a foot in each camp….
and….their kids forget stuff all the time. she is a 30 minute round trip in the other end of town. she constantly texts him the girls forgot…. can you bring it to us.
and he always does…. we’ve discussed that too. he isn’t her slave.
he argee’d he would stop running for her all the time. but he hasn’t yet.
what should I do?