(Closed) is this NORMAL????? ……. please help!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Nope, that’s very normal. To be honest, you sound like you’re having the same sort of anxiety I had when I went away for college. Prior to that, I had never spent any extended amount of time away from my family and it was hard to think about not seeing MY ROOM and sleeping in my bed. With that said, though, I had the best experiences of my life and, while I visit my parents’ home frequently, I have not been back extensively since before college. There will be times when you get homesick and when you miss those creature comforts of home, but at the same time your new experiences will enrich your life in such a way that you won’t think about it anymore. You’ll be okay, for sure.

Post # 4
490 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Aw, I think this is normal.  I had these feelings when I was having to live on campus and I am having them a little bit now that I am having to move away from home.  I mean, you are comfortable where you are and probably have routines and people you are comfortable being around.  When I finally went away to college, I missed home a little bit and even cried when I called home telling my mom that I wanted to come home.  My mom told me that she won’t let me and I will thank her later.  I eventually stopped calling as much and enjoyed the independence.  I stayed, graduated and came home and now I am having to do it ALL over again, except it will be more than 30 minutes away. 

One thing I keep remembering is that it is a chance to see a new area.  Its not like you will forget the people you have grown up with.  I am sure you will be able to visit or they can and you can keep in contact.  It will be a new adventure and eventually maybe you can get your own dog.  It will be a big adjustment, but I am sure it will be ok.  Thanks for posting this.  It has made me feel a little better about my move too. Smile

Post # 5
2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Definitely normal. Like PPs, I had those feelings when I moved away to college. It can be strange sometimes but it sounds like you and your Fiance are completely committed, so you’re lucky you’ll have him around 🙂 You won’t be lonely. When I went to college I was alone and it was difficult, but I think you’ll be fine 🙂

Post # 6
1200 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I COMPLETELY understand.. only I’m 35 and never moved yet LOL!  I had a failed engagement and put a lot of time and money into his house.. we never got it to the point of me moving in before he cheated.


I’ve stayed away but never “officially” moved out. And I’m homesick just thinking about it. I have those same thoughts.. waking up in MY bed in MY room.


My dad died when I was in college so it’s the added stress that I’m leaving my mom to live on her own for the first time in HER life.  And the neighborhood she lives in is NOT great. One break in and another attempted. So I feel guilty as hell over this.


FH wants me to move in NOW.  I’m dragging my feet. It’s such a huge change and a lot of emotion goes with it…

Post # 8
16 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

Its def normal to feel a little anxious/nervous. I’m getting married in less than 4 months and at times I think I’m crazy! Sometimes I doubt if its right…I’m a younger bride, but I try to keep reminding myself just how much I wanted to be married before all of these crazy feelings. Its a big step…even moving out of home is a big step but instead of looking at what you’ll miss, try to look forward that what you’ll have…what you couldn’t have if you weren’t married 🙂

Good luck

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