Post # 1
im getting married in 6 weeks time and im starting to feel nervous and scared about the big step of married life!!!
as a 26 year old european girl i have always lived at home, never have been on holidays or stayed over night with anyone … my life has been pretty strict and very controlled. still to this day i have a curfew.
altho my relationship with my parents isnt very loving or close per say, i know they love me and care for me and its just getting a bit emotional now…..
my fiance is amazing and he is my best friend so its not a matter of having 2nd thoughts bout him or having cold feet – its just the nervous feeling bout moving out of home and moving away from the people i have been living with for my entire life, not sleeping in my bed, not waking in my bedroom, not seeing my dog every say etc etc …..
am i crazy or are these normal feelings???
Post # 3
Nope, that’s very normal. To be honest, you sound like you’re having the same sort of anxiety I had when I went away for college. Prior to that, I had never spent any extended amount of time away from my family and it was hard to think about not seeing MY ROOM and sleeping in my bed. With that said, though, I had the best experiences of my life and, while I visit my parents’ home frequently, I have not been back extensively since before college. There will be times when you get homesick and when you miss those creature comforts of home, but at the same time your new experiences will enrich your life in such a way that you won’t think about it anymore. You’ll be okay, for sure.
Post # 4
Aw, I think this is normal. I had these feelings when I was having to live on campus and I am having them a little bit now that I am having to move away from home. I mean, you are comfortable where you are and probably have routines and people you are comfortable being around. When I finally went away to college, I missed home a little bit and even cried when I called home telling my mom that I wanted to come home. My mom told me that she won’t let me and I will thank her later. I eventually stopped calling as much and enjoyed the independence. I stayed, graduated and came home and now I am having to do it ALL over again, except it will be more than 30 minutes away.
One thing I keep remembering is that it is a chance to see a new area. Its not like you will forget the people you have grown up with. I am sure you will be able to visit or they can and you can keep in contact. It will be a new adventure and eventually maybe you can get your own dog. It will be a big adjustment, but I am sure it will be ok. Thanks for posting this. It has made me feel a little better about my move too.
Post # 5
Definitely normal. Like PPs, I had those feelings when I moved away to college. It can be strange sometimes but it sounds like you and your Fiance are completely committed, so you’re lucky you’ll have him around 🙂 You won’t be lonely. When I went to college I was alone and it was difficult, but I think you’ll be fine 🙂
Post # 6
I COMPLETELY understand.. only I’m 35 and never moved yet LOL! I had a failed engagement and put a lot of time and money into his house.. we never got it to the point of me moving in before he cheated.
I’ve stayed away but never “officially” moved out. And I’m homesick just thinking about it. I have those same thoughts.. waking up in MY bed in MY room.
My dad died when I was in college so it’s the added stress that I’m leaving my mom to live on her own for the first time in HER life. And the neighborhood she lives in is NOT great. One break in and another attempted. So I feel guilty as hell over this.
FH wants me to move in NOW. I’m dragging my feet. It’s such a huge change and a lot of emotion goes with it…
Post # 7
oh girls im so glad that im not the only one feeling this!!! it really hasnt hit me til now!! 6 weeks til the wedding!!!! altho, i must say that our wedding is going to be a good way of introducing me away from my bed and bedroom … we’re having a destination wedding and so it’ll be like a holiday … i arrive there with my parents and he arrives there with his, we get married, and then they say bye bye and we stay on for a little longer and then come home as husband and wife … to our own house … it really wont sink in til weeks later i reckon – especially since im a school teacher and when i get my school holidays im used to my house having my family thee annoying the heck outa me … but now itll be empty coz my Fiance will be at work … itll be the little things like that …
as well as the fact that im barely home now – only go back to sleep coz i have to … wheras to see them will have to be only when i visit …… ohhh wata huge step!!!!!
Post # 8
Its def normal to feel a little anxious/nervous. I’m getting married in less than 4 months and at times I think I’m crazy! Sometimes I doubt if its right…I’m a younger bride, but I try to keep reminding myself just how much I wanted to be married before all of these crazy feelings. Its a big step…even moving out of home is a big step but instead of looking at what you’ll miss, try to look forward that what you’ll have…what you couldn’t have if you weren’t married 🙂