Post # 1
Our wedding is only 3 months away and I am feeling a bit of cold feet. This is crazy because I was always the one that would ask him and bring up the subject. I think to myself, am I ready to be his wife forever or is he ready to be my husband forever. With so much divorce I want to make sure I dont become a statistic a second time around. I guess it is just my nerves. It is just odd that I feel this way when all I ever wanted was to marry him and be his wife.
Post # 3
I’m a little over 5 months out and I feel like that too sometimes. But then I think about it really hard and I think of all of the reasons why I love him and want to spend my life with him. It puts it into perspective. Good luck!
Post # 4
God, I hope its normal…. all my friends keep telling me it is 🙂
Post # 5
I had cold feet right after we first got engaged. I had some MAJOR freak out sessions. I considered it normal. This is a big step, and if you need to question it go ahead and question it…just make sure the answer is a resounding YES! DO IT! and that there are no tepid feelings about it. It helped to talk to all my married friends about it.
Post # 6
I’ve had a little of that also. I think it’s normal. It IS a huge commitment. I freak out when I make any big decisions, buying a car, e-ring, black or white Ipad. So I think it would be normal to freak out over something like a marriage
Post # 7
The “young love” feeling won’t last forever, that is something I’m prepared for. A wise man once told me that the best feeling in the world was just squeezing his wife’s hand for 10 seconds when they’re reading together at night time before bed. THAT is what I want. I always ask myself some questions when I start wondering about my FH. Can we stand living with eachother for 95% of the year? Does he make me happy at least once a day? Do we agree on the BIG life decisions, (religions, children, locations, familes, etc.) Will he be a good father? Do I trust him? Can he trust me? Do we help eachother? Is he sympathetic on bad days and happy for me on the good days? And last but not least, when I show him my *ahem* bits, does he smile? If all those are “YES!” then marry the dang guy! I see a marriage as much more than just a fluttery little attracted feeling, which I think many young people mistake for true love. It’s important to have had that feeling at one point, but if you dont’ feel it every 3 seconds, it just means your love is changing and maturing.
That’s my take on it anyways. 😉
Oh, and if you fight all the time and have a BIG disagreement between the 2 of you, (not just toothpaste brands, but like, where you see yourselves in 10 years,) then dont’ do it.
But DO IT! 🙂
Post # 8
Thank you so much ladies.
I really adore him and he has taken my daughters under his wing and takes care of them as his own. He is amazing and even after four years toghether, I dont get tired of having him around. He is my best friend and we do everything together. He makes my laugh everyday. I have never known a love like this, a real sense of peace of mind. I know I will marry him but I still feel a bit scared.
Post # 9
@Mrs.Jansen: I know your scaared but its very normal. My gf was in love with her man so much but the moment he proposed and she accepted — she said she started havin the cold feet and really disliked him for a while and realized it was al just nerves.
Im about 5 months away and Im nervous myself. Im nervous if I would be able to make him happy- not the other way around, but we can make it through girl, just trust your heart (:
Post # 10
I’m glad I read this post, because I have moments of panic also. So nice to know it’ s not just me going through this!
Post # 11
It’s very normal. You just have to ask if you are having doubts about him- is he the right one? Will xxx change? Can I live with xxx if he doesn’t change? Those are all signs that you shouldn’t get married. But if you are having doubts about the enormity of “forever” and worried if you can do it- perfectly healthy. It sounds like you are having the same doubts I did- I used to say I have no doubts about him. I know he the perfect guy for me. I have doubts about marriage in general- is it possible in this day and age for any two people to make it for 20,30,40 years?
There’s a web site that some people recommend called Conscience Transitions.
Post # 12
@KoiKove: Thank you for recommending that site.
Yes I feel scared that I dont have what it takes to make him happy. I think the doubt I have is in myself. I have been married before when I was very young and it did not end good. This time I around I am older and wiser. I sit here and type as he is taking a nap on the couch and I just want to ask him if he is sure that I am the one for him but I know he would not have proposed if he felt otherwise because he is a very smart man that doesnt just into anything without thinking it through.
We live together along with my two daughters, we just bought our first home, and work together. We became a family instantly and it just seems almost to easy. I would think that after four years I wouldnt feel this way,. Uhg!