(Closed) Is this odd??

posted 9 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is it odd to have the shower and bachelorette once you're married?
    Yes, she should have done both before she was legally married. : (30 votes)
    40 %
    No, it's fine. Whatever floats your boat. : (20 votes)
    27 %
    The shower is fine but she should have done the bachelorette before. : (23 votes)
    31 %
    Other : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 17
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    13095 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Personally – I find it weird and inappropriate, esspecially since they had an actual ceremony and reception for the first wedding (not just sign the paperwork as a formality).

    I’d be more understanding if they HAD to get legally married early for military, health insureance, etc issues and so they just signed the paperwork and didn’t have the ability to do the parties then.  But it doesn’t sound like that is the case here at all.

    Post # 18
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    5656 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    @sailor: Eh, if it was just legally, I’d feel differently. There are lots of reasons people get legally married before they can pull off a wedding and I think it’s still acceptable in those cases to have a shower or a bachelorette. I, personally, will not consider myself married until I’ve said my vows under God with a pastor present, even if my Fiance and I do end up having to legally marry sooner.

    (I realize that some people only do the courthouse part and then consider themselves married after that and that’s fine for them, but since I’m religious that is not what getting married means to me. I don’t mean to imply in any way that a legal marriage is not a real marriage, it just isn’t for me personally.)

    This case is different… it does seem like she’s already signed the papers and had a ceremony. That said though, I try not to judge and give people the benefit of the doubt… maybe there is a good reason they’re having a shower now? Who knows? 

    Post # 19
    Member
    735 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    The shower is okay, but I think a bachelorette party is little after the fact.

    Post # 21
    Member
    3314 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    My husband and I got married one day after we flew back to the US from the Netherlands where we were waiting for his fiance visa to be approved.  We had our “official” wedding 6 months later.  Personally I chose not to have a shower or bachelorette because we don’t have any space for stuff.  However, even knowing our situation, I had A LOT of friends/family ask me about these parties and when and where.  

    Post # 22
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    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    that is a bit odd.. but she prolly just wants the whole experience. 

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