Post # 17
Personally – I find it weird and inappropriate, esspecially since they had an actual ceremony and reception for the first wedding (not just sign the paperwork as a formality).
I’d be more understanding if they HAD to get legally married early for military, health insureance, etc issues and so they just signed the paperwork and didn’t have the ability to do the parties then. But it doesn’t sound like that is the case here at all.
Post # 18
@sailor: Eh, if it was just legally, I’d feel differently. There are lots of reasons people get legally married before they can pull off a wedding and I think it’s still acceptable in those cases to have a shower or a bachelorette. I, personally, will not consider myself married until I’ve said my vows under God with a pastor present, even if my Fiance and I do end up having to legally marry sooner.
(I realize that some people only do the courthouse part and then consider themselves married after that and that’s fine for them, but since I’m religious that is not what getting married means to me. I don’t mean to imply in any way that a legal marriage is not a real marriage, it just isn’t for me personally.)
This case is different… it does seem like she’s already signed the papers and had a ceremony. That said though, I try not to judge and give people the benefit of the doubt… maybe there is a good reason they’re having a shower now? Who knows?
Post # 19
The shower is okay, but I think a bachelorette party is little after the fact.
Post # 20
@SerenaSF: I absolutely agree. I think you already know with your Destination Wedding that not every guest will be able to attend. It’s sucks but it’s just the way it is with Destination Wedding. There are some other details that I left out that have been less than ideal but they’re sort of irrelevant to this post.
Post # 21
My husband and I got married one day after we flew back to the US from the Netherlands where we were waiting for his fiance visa to be approved. We had our “official” wedding 6 months later. Personally I chose not to have a shower or bachelorette because we don’t have any space for stuff. However, even knowing our situation, I had A LOT of friends/family ask me about these parties and when and where.
Post # 22
that is a bit odd.. but she prolly just wants the whole experience.