(Closed) Is this offensive?

posted 9 years ago in Legal
  • poll: Is this offensive? Should they pay their bill?

    Yes it's offesnive

    No, it's just an accurate description like saying skinny girls

    Other (explained below)

    They have the right to refuse paying

    They DO NOT have the right to refuse paying

  • Post # 17
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Oh my gosh that is super insulting.  You still have to pay… I would just never go back!

    Post # 18
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    It would be very offensive! Do you think if that bartender had labeled the table “3 cripples”, “3 ugly chicks”, or “mom with retard kid” that manager wouldn’t have been falling all over herself to make it right??? Making fun of anyone for anything is straight up bullying. He had to know those women would have seen that on their check. I think they are entitled to their meal being free.

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee

    Yes it’s offensive. Yes they should have to pay, but if I was the waitress, I would not be expecting a tip.

    Post # 20
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    While I think they are responsible for the bill, I think it would be in the restaurant’s best interest to comp their check in the name of good customer service.  So yeah, they owe the money for the food, but the employee royally screwed up by offending the customer, and the manager would be giving good customer service to comp the bill even though technically they don’t have to.

    FWIW when I used to do restaurant work, we actually trained our bar staff on what they could and could not put on checks to identify customers. Customers seated at tables are easy because you just go by the table number, but when you’ve got a packed bar, it gets messy, especially if folks are standing or moving around and not sitting in chairs. We trained the barstaff to identify customers by clothing first and other generic details next, because no one would be offended to see “purple shirt” or “solo man @ window”  or “ladies @ beer taps” on their check.

    It just surprises me that service staff still make these idiotic mistakes.

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    The manager SHOULD HAVE given them the meal on the house. I have been comped for MUCH LESS than that. Horrible

    Post # 22
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    119 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I think it’s evident that there’s a problem with today’s society when there’s even a question if this is offensive or not.

    Post # 23
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    That is horrible customer service and not only should they not pay for their meals but the gentleman who labeled that table should be fired immediately

    Post # 24
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Offensive and embarrassing on both parts. I feel bad for the waiter who lost his tip because the bartender put them under “Fat Girls” and I feel bad for the group. I don’t think they should have completely refused to pay but the manager should have given them a nice discount.

     

    @MrsWBS:  I wouldn’t say saying “Skinny Girls” is as offensive as saying “Fat Girls” because being called skinny and being called fat do not have the same connotations in our society.

    Post # 26
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @fishbone:  When I was bartending, one of my coworkers got in trouble for keeping this guy’s tab under the name “fuckface”. Customer wasn’t too pleased. The guy was a regular and a scumbag who regularly got warnings and escorted out so management couldn’t blame her too much but she did get a slap on the wrist.

    Post # 27
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    659 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would bring it up with the manager who I would expect to take care of the bill and I might also bring it to a local newspaper and shame them for fat-shaming.

    I am offended by the “skinny girl” label just as strongly.  

    Post # 29
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Offensive, and a good restaurant manager wouldn’t have made them pay.  They still have to pay the bill though, since the manager didn’t offer then a free meal.

    Post # 30
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @MrsWBS:  I don’t think the label “skinny girls” is in the same category as “fat girls”. I think a label such as “anorexic girls” would probably be closer to the equivalent.

    Post # 31
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Very offensive and rude, but doesn’t justifying not paying for a meal they ate.  I would absolutely tell the manager, and not tip the server for the rudeness, but they still should pay.

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