(Closed) Is this offensive?

posted 9 years ago in Legal
  • poll: Is this offensive? Should they pay their bill?

    Yes it's offesnive

    No, it's just an accurate description like saying skinny girls

    Other (explained below)

    They have the right to refuse paying

    They DO NOT have the right to refuse paying

  • Post # 62
    Member
    1304 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Cady:  I used to love going to Dick’s Last Resort when I was in college.  LOVED that they would insult me to my face….but only because it was expected.

    Post # 63
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    12339 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @joya_aspera:  Then they should sue, because that’s not ok to get away with.

    What exactly would they sue for?  Hurting someones feelings isn’t exactly breaking any laws. 

    Post # 64
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    1608 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    @discodance:  yup same. It’s offensive, I would pay, but there would be no tip. 

    Edit: I agree with PPs that the manager should want to cover the bill!

    Post # 66
    Member
    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @WillyNilly:  What I mean is yes, while the server represents the returaunt. I’m sure no one told the server to do this, nor was it in any training they recieved while there. If that is the case and upper management told the server it was alright to do so, or the resturaunt trains it’s employees this way, then they are at fault for it.

     

    Post # 67
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    280 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’ll admit that in my time as a server I named people’s checks some pretty awful things.   But never solely based on appearance or anything like that.  Some customers are just foul human beings and miserable to deal with.   I ALWAYS deleted the name before giving it to the guest though.  It just made me feel better to vent on the computer screen.  And it definitely helped me to differentiate that table from another.  

    If for some reason I had forgotten to take the name off, I would fully expect to 1. Not get tipped.  2. Get fired.  There were some circumstances that made it *almost* worth it.  

    In this case, I think it’s pretty awful. Name the check “3 ladies, purple shirts’ or something like that if you want to remember them.   It sounds like they were normal people eating out and not making a fuss or anything.  They didn’t deserve that.   

    From a restaurants point of view, it would be in their best interest to comp the check in my opinion.  And of course fire the server.  I worked in a little Irish pub and they would have definitely made the customer pay for the entire check.  Or they would have made the server.  

    Post # 68
    Hostess
    840 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I find it offensive; but they still have to pay the bill. If they’re unhappy with the place, don’t patronize them anymore in the future. They were served the food, they ate the food, they should pay for the food. They shouldn’t have to pay for the tip because the issue was with the server and not the kitchen/back of the house staff.

    Post # 69
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    1087 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    LOL who are the 10 people who were ok with this?!?!?!

    Post # 70
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    3872 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @MrsWBS:  I really want to know who is “on the fence” about whether calling customers “fat” AND WRITING IT ON THEIR CHECK is offensive.  That seems pretty damn cut and dry to me. 

    Post # 71
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    625 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Definitely offensive. They should pay their bill and then address the issue with the corporate head office or management for this company. The individual who labelled them as ‘fat girls’ (completely inappropriate in a service environment in any situation – verbally or in writing) should be severely reprimanded and in my opinion should be reconsidered for employment.

    Post # 72
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    6414 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I never knew people labeled things like this at bars or restaurants… going out to relax is the last place I’d want to be judged by some stranger whose opinion was not asked. Great now I probably won’t want to go out again for a while. =/

    Post # 73
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    431 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I went out for lunch with friends the other day, and the hostess was extremely slim (I really hate the word skinny and think it’s a very negative way to describe someone). I over heard other customers talking about how skinny she was.  I was really offended by this, what right does anyone have to comment about anyone else’s body? Whether they are big, small, it’s not anyones business. 

    The restaurant should have picked up the tab, just for good customer service.  But seeing as they didn’t I would of just paid the bill, and never gone back, as well as tell everyone I know about my experience.  Bad word of mouth travels very, very fast!

    Post # 76
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    3872 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @MrsWBS:  These hypothetical people must be either hermits or willfully blind then.  I really don’t know when “fat” has been a neutral descriptor in our culture, but it certainly has not been in my lifetime. 

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