(Closed) Is this ok to Ask Bridesmaids?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
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Helper bee

@vanilla44:  Doesn’t seem like a big deal to me, but I don’t generally look a people’s feet at weddings so I don’t know if I would even notice.  🙂 

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper

I personally wouldn’t be offended by the request. I’d be totally fine with the bride buying me a particular color for my toes. Yay free nail polish! 🙂

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@vanilla44:  I don’t think this is too odd a request. It might simply be a more specific request than your BMs are used to hearing as most times it’s about their dress, hair, face makeup, and jewelry. She might be thinking, “Now I gotta worry about my toes, too?” I think your miffed bridesmaid just needs some clarification that she is not required to get a pedi, just that you want to be Mrs. Bright Pink Polish that day while the BMs remain neutral. Let her know that you will either pay for her pedi or, like a PP said, at least provide a bottle of polish for her.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I have never not gotten a pedicure for a wedding I was in. That’s just me, I love pedis. I’d be honestly annoyed to spend $35-40 for a pedicure on a color I would never get otherwise (bright pink is my color of choice, always). I think it’s a little ridiculous if you ask me. I get that you want to be the only one, but do you honestly think anyone will notice 1) what color your toes are or 2) that one of the BMs has the same color nail polish as you? I never do my own toes in the summer so the just buy them a bottle of nail polish wouldn’t really work. I think if you want to do it, you should offer to pay for their pedicure. I see this the same way as asking the girls to wear a certain hair style – if you want it done a specific way, you should pay for it. As a Bridesmaid or Best Man, i’d do whatever you asked, but yeah, I think its a bit much and I can’t blame your friend for being annoyed.

Post # 21
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Sugar bee

I really dont think anyone will notice the color of your toe nail polish.

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d be kinda irked. I don’t like my toes painted in light colors. Its not necessarliy fair to ask the Bridesmaid or Best Man to pay for something like that and then make requests of how its done. Its like a implieddemand??

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable- you’re not requesting that they get pedis, just requesting that they pick a light color. Same as saying “please don’t have bright red lips.”

I almost always do strong-colored pedis, but if a bride requested light colors for a wedding- no problem toning it down. Yes, it could be considered picky, and I really doubt anyone will notice (unless you do feet pictures like julies1949 mentioned), but I think it’s ok.

Post # 26
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would think it was over the top and probably roll my eyes if a bride told me to paint my nails a certain color.  Maybe just tell them to stay away from bright pink?

Post # 27
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Helper bee

@vanilla44:  I think it’s fine to ask them to stick to lighter shades. If they are going to get pedicures anyway, it won’t change the cost at all and if they are going to do it themselves, you could offer to buy a bottle for all of them to share.  

Post # 28
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Honey bee

I think your request is reasonable.

Post # 29
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had a bride ask me not to have my nails painted anything bright. The only reason it bothered me was because it was 2 days before the wedding and I already had my mani/pedi. So as long as you ask before they get their nails done, it’s fine. They may complain but in the end you want to be happy on your day.

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If you feel strongly, mention it to them “if you any of you are thinking about getting pedis please stay away from bright colors”. I’d totally give you the side-eye and then comply.

My Bms kept consulting me about polish colors so they might bring it up before you do.

Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@speechgal44:  I like the idea of a bottle to share.

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