Post # 1
This may be a ridiculous/stupid question – I’m fully willing to admit that… and I hope it makes sense. Anyway, it’s in two parts:
Our wedding ceremony will begin at 5PM and we’re starting professional photos at 3. I’m going to the salon at 7:30AM, which seems really early, but I have a lot of hair (that’s really thick and naturally curly) and my stylist said will take AT LEAST an hour and a half to do because I want a pretty complicated hair style. (She assured me that it will hold up all day, too). So far, I don’t have anyone going to the salon with me and I’m kind of okay with that. Is it odd to not have my bridesmaids with me? (I’m not requiring anyone to get their hair done – I just asked if they would leave their hair down and curly, but if they really want an up-do that’s fine with me).
Also, as it stands, we’re cutting it super close in our tiny budget and won’t have the money to buy lunch for everyone while we’re getting ready. I mean, I’d love to, but it’s just no feasible. Fiance wants everyone to just chip in to order Subway or pizza, but I feel weird about this. I would rather everyone come over after 11:30, having already had their own lunch (and we would provide small snacks).
However, this would mean that I would spend a chunk of the day alone or just with my mom and sisters (since all of the bridesmaids are meeting up at my mom’s house to finish getting ready). On one hand, I really want that alone time (to kind of process everything and just be as stress-free as possible), but, on the other, I don’t want to later regret spending so much of the day alone or with just my mom and sisters and not with my friends, too.
What do you think? Should I ask my bridesmaids to spend the day with me? Is it okay to ask everyone to chip in money for lunch the day of the wedding? How did you spend the hours before becoming a Mrs.?
Post # 3
I enjoy my alone time quite a but, so I don’t think it’s strange you’re considering being alone before your wedding. However, I think expecting them to feed themselves before coming over is much more unexpected and “not okay” than asking everyone to contribute to pizza or something.
If you do want them to eat before they come over, make sure you tell them! It wouldn’t occur to me to to eat before a wedding if I was asked to be there at 11:30.
Post # 4
@futuremrsndl: I would be VERY annoyed if someone wanted me to go to the hairdresser with them for no reason other than keeping them company at 7:30 in the morning. I am not a morning person lol.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having some alone time. If your mom and sister are around, it’s not really alone time.
I don’t think you need your BMs there just for the sake of having them there. Invite your BFF if you really want the company, or give them the option of coming but make it clear that they don’t HAVE TO be there (since it is early and you probably don’t want them leaving the reception early because they’re dozing off).
Post # 5
I went and got my hair done alone and had no problem with it. Then my Maid/Matron of Honor came over to do my make up and then the rest of the girls came a bit later. My mom made omelettes and French toast (ceremony started at noon).
Post # 6
My BMs came to the salon with me, although getting their hair and make-up done was strictly optional, so they didn’t all get hair and make-up done there. The salon is accustomed to wedding parties on Satrudays, so they had some snacks for us to munch on and mimosas. You might check and see if your salon provides this service, as we weren’t expecting it.
When we came back to the bridal suite, they changed into their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and I into my wedding dress. At this point, my mom said she would meet us at the suite and bring more snacks over for us (veggies, cheese, sandwich fixings, water bottles). Having my mom bring food was perfect because she was more than willing, it was cheap, and I didn’t need to worry about it. Don’t forget it’s not just important to feed your BMs, but also yourself…I was so nervous that I had to make myself munch on small things throughout the day.
If you decide the BMs are not coming with you to get your hair done, I think that’s fine. Just tell them to get a good breakfast before coming to meet you for your first “event” you need them for.
Post # 7
@futuremrsndl: I’m a Northeast Ohio bride too, how exciting! And my wedding is just 2 weeks after yours 🙂
I personally wouldn’t want to spend the morning alone either, but if you mom & sister will be there you, technically you won’t be alone. But I understand wanting to have friends there. The first thing that came to my mind when you mentioned a small budget & not being able to feed people was those $5 “hot & ready pizzas” that every pizza place has now. Have someone pick up 3 $5 pizzas.. surely you can squeeze $15 out of somewhere.
Or let everyone know lunch won’t be provided, but there will be some light snacks. And maybe get some veggies & dip, chips etc. There’s no need to do a full blown lunch.
Post # 8
We will be meeting at the salon @ 10am and will be out of there by noon. We’re having Subway trays dropped off at my parents house @ 1 for everyone to eat. That’s how we’re spending our morning/early afternoon. The boys are going to a sports bar for lunch.