(Closed) Is this okay as a bridesmaid gift? Need Feedback!!

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
12 posts

I wouldn’t do a massage day-of. I’m already a bit lethargic afterwards. Maybe earlier week of or day before? I think that the tank, robe, and makeup are all plenty Either way. 

Post # 3
1338 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I personally wouldn’t care for it, and especially knowing your sister has never went to a spa shows she probably (but maybe not) doesn’t care too much for things like that. It definitely seems like its more wedding related rather than a gift. I would just get her something that isn’t related to the wedding.

Post # 4
644 posts
Busy bee

Probably not a good idea to do it the day of the wedding.  The schedule could get hectic, and it’s not the best idea to be getting a facial if it’s unknown how you will react to the products used.  

Perhaps plan a spa day for after the wedding.  Clear the schedule with them, tell them you’d like to get together for a day, and that it would be your treat as their bridesmaids’ gifts.   Perhaps by that time, you would have some photos from the wedding to share with them, etc.  

Post # 5
1829 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Don’t do it the day off. Sometimes you’re sore after, they do not recomend that you drink at all. 

I hate bride tribe shirts. but if you get the massage which I would like, don’t make it something they have to do that day, or with you. 

Post # 6
6340 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

I think the gift card for a spa is a lovely idea. But I wouldn’t make it something for the day of the wedding (or something that has to be a group activity). Whenever I get a facial I look super red-faced the rest of the day. That’s the last thing I would want to have done right before a wedding. I’d just gift them the certificates and they can go to the spa on their own time and get whatever treatments they would like. 

Post # 7
7900 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I would enjoy a spa gift certificate to use at my leisure, not as part of wedding preparations.

Check to see if the facialist recommends getting a facial right before your wedding–some recommend against. 

Post # 8
793 posts
Busy bee

I like the idea, but would just get a gift certificate to be redeemed at their convience. They probably shouldn’t wear tank tops to get their hair done.

Post # 9
1736 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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ctbxbee :  On my wedding day, there would have been no time to do that! Plus, I wouldnt want to be doing something out of the ordinary to my skin that close to the wedding. 

I would maybe give a gift card for one afterwards. My BM’s loved their gifts. I gave them each a tote bag with a glass water tumbler, 2 bath bombs, and a bottle of their favorite wine. 

Post # 10
1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think that’s a great idea but not the day of. Tight schedule and it’s hard to truly relax on such a busy and full day. Maybe the week before or before the wedding rehearsal?

Edit: I second the Bee that suggested a gift certificate to use at their own leisure.

I too am paying for hair/makeup and giving them robes/bracelets. Their gift is a gift certificate.

Post # 11
39 posts
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’m a massage therapist so I love massages. I think thats a great idea. Not for the day of the wedding though. At least a few days or week before. I’d like a bridesmaid shirt but not if it says Bride Tribe. I hate that expression. I’d get they small gift baskets.

Post # 12
4767 posts
Honey bee

Shop like it is their birthday. 

I have never had a massage that didn’t hurt.  I get them periodically but out of necessity, not enjoyment. I also only go to the two massage therapists I trust and already have a relationship with. I’m also guessing that hours before being photographed you don’t want a new skin care product introduced.  The whole thing still seems more like bonding experience for you instead of a gift for them.  Buy the person who likes spas a gift certificate for her favorite/closest one and find something for the other one.  Their gifts don’t have to be the same. Just equivalent. In other words don’t buy $100 gift certificate for this Spa lover and a bottle of Three Buck Chuck from Trader Joe’s for the wine lover.

Post # 13
1015 posts
Bumble bee

I got my Maid/Matron of Honor a spa gift certificate for her bridesmaids gift. But I got it to a nice spa that was close to her house and left it up to her to book her spa day.  


Spa is a great bridesmaids gift but as others mentioned, not as a group activity and definitely not on your wedding day due to possible skin reactions and the detox effect that can happen after a good massage.  


I would pick a spa that is convenient for each girl even if it’s a different one. 

Post # 14
809 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I think this is a really thoughtful gift, but agree with everyone else that I wouldn’t do it day of.  I love facials but sometimes if there are exractions and peels my skin is quite red after so I try to do it well before (or after) a big event.

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