Post # 1
My wedding is not til March, but I am type A and a planner. My bridal party is small, just my sister as Maid/Matron of Honor and my future SIL as a bridesmaid. I was planning on getting them bride tribe tanks and robes for the day of the wedding, but those aren’t really gifts for them because I want them to wear them. I will be paying for professional make-up applications for them, but again that is not a gift for them, but something that I would like.
I got an email that included a link to a thread on best and worst bridesmaid gifts people had received. One person had mentioned that the best gift she had ever received was a gift certificate for a massage. Given my sister likes experience oriented gifts and knowing my Future Sister-In-Law has never been to a spa, I was thinking of arranging a mini-facial and massage for the three of us on the morning of the wedding before we do hair and make-up. I guess what I want to know is what would you think of this as a bridesmaid gift? Would you be happy with it? Or because it is something we would be doing the day of the wedding does it detract and make the gift more about the wedding? (IDK if that makes sense)
Post # 2
I wouldn’t do a massage day-of. I’m already a bit lethargic afterwards. Maybe earlier week of or day before? I think that the tank, robe, and makeup are all plenty Either way.
Post # 3
I personally wouldn’t care for it, and especially knowing your sister has never went to a spa shows she probably (but maybe not) doesn’t care too much for things like that. It definitely seems like its more wedding related rather than a gift. I would just get her something that isn’t related to the wedding.
Post # 4
Probably not a good idea to do it the day of the wedding. The schedule could get hectic, and it’s not the best idea to be getting a facial if it’s unknown how you will react to the products used.
Perhaps plan a spa day for after the wedding. Clear the schedule with them, tell them you’d like to get together for a day, and that it would be your treat as their bridesmaids’ gifts. Perhaps by that time, you would have some photos from the wedding to share with them, etc.
Post # 5
Don’t do it the day off. Sometimes you’re sore after, they do not recomend that you drink at all.
I hate bride tribe shirts. but if you get the massage which I would like, don’t make it something they have to do that day, or with you.
Post # 6
I think the gift card for a spa is a lovely idea. But I wouldn’t make it something for the day of the wedding (or something that has to be a group activity). Whenever I get a facial I look super red-faced the rest of the day. That’s the last thing I would want to have done right before a wedding. I’d just gift them the certificates and they can go to the spa on their own time and get whatever treatments they would like.
Post # 7
I would enjoy a spa gift certificate to use at my leisure, not as part of wedding preparations.
Check to see if the facialist recommends getting a facial right before your wedding–some recommend against.
Post # 8
I like the idea, but would just get a gift certificate to be redeemed at their convience. They probably shouldn’t wear tank tops to get their hair done.
Post # 9
On my wedding day, there would have been no time to do that! Plus, I wouldnt want to be doing something out of the ordinary to my skin that close to the wedding.
I would maybe give a gift card for one afterwards. My BM’s loved their gifts. I gave them each a tote bag with a glass water tumbler, 2 bath bombs, and a bottle of their favorite wine.
Post # 10
I think that’s a great idea but not the day of. Tight schedule and it’s hard to truly relax on such a busy and full day. Maybe the week before or before the wedding rehearsal?
Edit: I second the Bee that suggested a gift certificate to use at their own leisure.
I too am paying for hair/makeup and giving them robes/bracelets. Their gift is a gift certificate.
Post # 11
I’m a massage therapist so I love massages. I think thats a great idea. Not for the day of the wedding though. At least a few days or week before. I’d like a bridesmaid shirt but not if it says Bride Tribe. I hate that expression. I’d get they small gift baskets.
Post # 12
Shop like it is their birthday.
I have never had a massage that didn’t hurt. I get them periodically but out of necessity, not enjoyment. I also only go to the two massage therapists I trust and already have a relationship with. I’m also guessing that hours before being photographed you don’t want a new skin care product introduced. The whole thing still seems more like bonding experience for you instead of a gift for them. Buy the person who likes spas a gift certificate for her favorite/closest one and find something for the other one. Their gifts don’t have to be the same. Just equivalent. In other words don’t buy $100 gift certificate for this Spa lover and a bottle of Three Buck Chuck from Trader Joe’s for the wine lover.
Post # 13
I got my Maid/Matron of Honor a spa gift certificate for her bridesmaids gift. But I got it to a nice spa that was close to her house and left it up to her to book her spa day.
Spa is a great bridesmaids gift but as others mentioned, not as a group activity and definitely not on your wedding day due to possible skin reactions and the detox effect that can happen after a good massage.
I would pick a spa that is convenient for each girl even if it’s a different one.
Post # 14
I think this is a really thoughtful gift, but agree with everyone else that I wouldn’t do it day of. I love facials but sometimes if there are exractions and peels my skin is quite red after so I try to do it well before (or after) a big event.
Post # 15
Thank you everyone for the feedback!!
The consensus seems to be…great gift, but not day of the wedding, which does make sense. I’m not sure that I’ll be able to make that work for a variety of reasons and may go the route of getting more personal gifts for each of them.
I still plan on spending an hour of my morning at the spa getting a mini facial. I am getting a series of peels done leading up to my wedding, but had planned to get a mini facial the day of my wedding. No extractions, masks, scrubs or peels, just a cleansing, facial massage and moisturization, so not concerned about reactions or harsh treatments or products. I had been thinking of pairing it with a swedish massage, but your comments about soreness are something to consider. I may just do the mini facial with the lighter massage that comes with it. Fortunately, my venue is all inclusive, and so all I need to do on the day of the wedding is get ready.