(Closed) Is this okay or not for my step mother to wear this to the wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Is she american? I know a lot of people say no to wearing cream/white/off white in my Dad culture people wear it to weddings, I know his family who are coming over will probably wear those colors and like you I don’t care. I say it’s not ok if you were upset about her wearing white.

Post # 4
9550 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

If you don’t mind, then it is totally okay.

Post # 6
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

The only thing to keep in mind is pictures — if she’s standing next to you, she might sort of blend in! That’s my only real concern about family members wearing white/ivory/cream — surely they could NEVER upstage me 😉

Post # 7
1927 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I personally would be a little upset if my Mother wanted to wear cream. I get very upset if I see a guest wearing white to someone’s wedding.

Post # 8
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wouldn’t care, but like everyone said, do whatever works for you.

A friend wore a very light cream dress to my wedding and I thought nothing of it; my spouse kept coming back to it and I hadn’t even noticed or cared.

Post # 9
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My only concern would be the photos. No one will think she’s the bride, but I love how a big white dress pops on camera. As PP said, she might blend in if she’s next to you. 

Post # 10
745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

If you’re okay with it, then it shouldn’t be a problem at all. I still don’t understand the problem people have with it. It just seems one of those “it’s wrong, just because” scenarios. 

I’ve told people they can wear whatever they want. Doesn’t matter to me.


Post # 11
7992 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I think that trouser or skirt suits look very nice on older women, and are suitable for weddings in general. I saw a very nice ivory one recently which would have looked lovely on Future Mother-In-Law. But it’s up to you, really… are you OK with the colour?

Post # 12
996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@StellaC:  idk no one is going to mistake her for the bride, and if she IS trying to be catty she’s just going to look ridiculous

I wouldn’t even make an issue out of it

Post # 14
599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Make sure you get her a bright corsage! I doubt anyone would mistake her for the bride in a pants suit. But I know what you mean, I think people should steer away from wearing all white or ivory unless they are the bride (just my opinion!).

Post # 15
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

If you don’t care, then it’s not an issue.

I do kind of wonder if this is a violation of “white afer labour day” though?  Unless it’s a very thick material, that seems kind of summery.  But, I guess she’s the one who has to wear it…

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