Post # 1
I’m planning on asking my best friends to be bridesmaids and actually planned on just mailing them a card and small package to surprise them. Then I thought about how maybe not asking in person would be thought of as rude, especially since I only live two hours away. The only reason I’m hesitant to ask in person is because I don’t want them to feel pressured to agree on being a bridesmaid. I’m just not 100% sure they would all agree based on financial issues and even one of them having a baby 6 months before my wedding.
I don’t know… I think I’m over thinking it, I know..
What do you think?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
No it’s not rude! Sometimes you just can’t ask in person. If you make it sweet and personal, that should be really nice 🙂
Post # 4
Hmm.. that’s a tough one. Although I would rather be asked in person, I can see your reasoning behind not wanting to ask them in person.
Go with your gut. If you feel better about not asking them in person, then don’t. What you have planned sounds very sweet.
Post # 5
Well I just emailed one so I can’t say this is rude at all!
Post # 6
I don’t think that’d be rude at all, I think I’d be touched if I got something in the mail asking to be a BM! Good Luck!!!
Post # 7
not rude! it’s a fun surprise for them! i did four of mine in person (the ones that live near me) and then shipped the other two girls their boxes and they were so happy and surprised 🙂
Post # 8
Nope, I love getting mail. I assume you’ll speak to them at least on the phone in the near future.
Post # 9
I personally felt put on the spot when a friend of mine asked me in person. I think if I would have recieved something like you are talking about, I could have thought about it more, and sent a nice no thank you instead of feeling like I had to be overjoyed and excited about a wedding that is two years away. 🙂
Post # 10
I gave out cards for christmas inviting my 4 girls to be my bridesmaids. I live close to everyone so it was easy for me to do it in person. I wouldnt be offended if i was your bridesmaid and got it in the mail since you dont exzactly live close.
Post # 11
I think cards are fine. I did cards for my ladies and it was special since people don’t get “snail mail” very often.
Post # 12
Not rude at all! I sent cards to my gals — all but one live out of town, so it was a nice way to ask them (without the pressure!). They all loved it!
Post # 13
@alotlikelove: not rude at all. Thoughtful IMO.
Post # 14
That’s very considerate of you! I don’t think it’s rude at all and as your friends who will be part of your big day, they should know you better to think that of you!
Post # 15
Its not rude, honestly when I did mine I called them up and said “Im sending you something and call me when you get it” so that they would be looking out for something. I sent them a whole gift, made it myself. Since all my bridesmaids lived far away (one even in England) I thought this would be a beautiful way to ask 🙂
This is what I sent my bridesmaids and they loved it!
Post # 16
I think it would be fine! The notes and gifts would be super cute!