Is this outfit too much for me to wear to my rehearsal brunch?

posted 2 months ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I pick a different outfit?
    Yes : (55 votes)
    53 %
    No : (49 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 16
    2402 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    No need to “prove” that you’re a woman by “showing off” your body. That just seems so odd for people to be concerned about at a Sunday brunch celebrating your wedding. 

    I think it’s elegant and quite beautiful on you.  

    Post # 17
    1905 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

    I like the top well enough, but the skirt is pretty dark and long for a morning event.

    Post # 18
    1118 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    I like the top, but I would swap out the skirt for something lighter and shorter.

    Post # 19
    374 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    I’m the opposite of other bees, I would keep the skirt and do a little more casual top. Maybe something pink. This one is pretty but it’s a little too formal for brunch. 

    I do like both pieces though. 

    Post # 20
    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Love the top its very chic, but I agree with a shorter skirt maybe in an autumn hue.

    Post # 21
    4579 posts
    Honey bee

    The entire outfit reads very matronly (for a woman in her 60s or 70s) to me and looks like you’re about to give an evening cello recital at a concert hall, not have brunch the day before getting married.  If it’s a very somber brunch at an old Victorian mansion B&B maybe.  I’d probably pick a body part and uncover it a little (slightly lower neckline, 3/4 or elbow or short sleeves, or a slightly shorter and lighter colored skirt).

    But I also am big on giving zero f*cks about whether people like what I’m wearing or having to exactly match a theme/occasion so if you like it and it is comfortable then that is all that matters.  

    Post # 22
    153 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2020

    Having hips and a waist is not exclusive to being a woman and you don’t need to show off or accentuate those parts. The sleeves seem a bit long and I would get syrup on them for sure hehe.

    It’s a bit formal for a brunch but I have been known to overdress and be dramatic so if you rock it, it rocks! I love the color of the skirt.

    Post # 23
    6233 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I like the top and I like the skirt, I don’t know that I like them together. Maybe accessories could help (like a belt as someone else suggested) but I would probably switch out one piece or the other. And, no, you don’t need to show off your body if that isn’t your style, but these two pieces each swamp your frame which makes you look a bit like a kid playing dress up.

    Pick the piece that appeals to you the most and create a new outfit based around that one (personally, I’d keep the top and do a different bottom.

    Post # 24
    517 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

    I think what PP’s were getting at it that the top looks like it doesn’t fit and is to big. There is no need to show off your body and nothing wrong with being modest but ill fitting clothes that overtake your frame are not very flattering. Since the top is big pairing it with that skirt makes the skirt look big as well. Here are a few similar ideas.

    Screenshot_2019-10-05 Lace Beads tulle midi skirt in taupe ASOSScreen Shot 2019-10-05 at 10.16.21 AM

    The first is under $60 from ASOS and the other I found on Morning Lavender. If you want to wear the outfit you have maybe wear the skirt over the shirt at your natural waist, like the model wearing the yellow skirt, and maybe cut some length off the bottom of the skirt. You could also trim up the sleeves of the top following the lace pattern and make them cap or 3/4 sleeve length.

    Post # 25
    954 posts
    Busy bee

    obviousanonymous :  That’s funny, I had the exact opposite reaction. Looks matronly to me. Not young.


    OP, changing out the skirt will help a ton! Beautiful top – pick a shorter skirt (even a midi) in a lighter color and it will be perfect for brunch. 

    Post # 26
    216 posts
    Helper bee

    It’s your brunch! Wear it if you love it!

    Post # 27
    980 posts
    Busy bee

    It’s very similar to the looks Morning Lavender posts on Instagram and on their website which I love! They don’t look matronly at all. I think the issue here is the top is too big for you. That plus the dark skirt is making the whole thing look odd. If you can find a similar lace top that fits, I think it’ll look great! Maybe try tucking it in? Id do some fall colored flowers in your hair or even just baby’s breath. 

    Post # 28
    8453 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I think both pieces are lovely, but rather formal for brunch. I agree with pps who say keep the top and pair it with something shorter and less formal. 

    No need to choose something to display yourself in any way you don’t want   to. You are most clearly a pretty woman without having to do this, so please don’t feel bad about comments that suggest otherwise .  


    aliencereal :  

    Post # 29
    1236 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    aliencereal :  I would just tuck the top into the skirt and wear it at your waist. The way you have it now, it kind of doesn’t come together as a seamles outfit. I think if you tuck it into the skirt it’ll look similar to what this woman is wearing, and I quite like the look! 

    The specific color of your skirt gives off fall vibes to me. I think a brighter skirt would not read fall as much, but that’s totally up to you.

    obviousanonymous :  This is… a very strange comment. Makes it sound like you’re on this website expecting to ogle at poster’s photos.

    Post # 30
    3394 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think it looks frumpy. It’s probably because it is so big on you.

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