(Closed) Is this pretentious?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How should we be introduced?
    Mr. and Mrs. HisFirst HisLast : (8 votes)
    36 %
    Dr. and Dr. HisLast : (1 votes)
    5 %
    Drs. HisFirst and MyFirst Hislast : (5 votes)
    23 %
    HisFirst and MyFirst HisLast : (4 votes)
    18 %
    His First and MyFirst MyMaiden HisLast : (2 votes)
    9 %
    something else (please explain) : (2 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    7082 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2009

    We opted not to do the Dr. thing.  It would have felt weird to me in front of family and friends (many of whom are physicians as well).  We introduced with our first names “together as one”.  It suited us well, but is not for everyone…. I did not change my last name.

    Post # 4
    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I chose Mr and Mrs only because when I finish my PhD I am dreading being referred to Dr. I find it so pretentious and I am really looking forward to hearing Mr. and Mrs. for the first time!

    But it Really is a personal choice – What do you want to be referred to as?

    Post # 5
    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m graduating from med school 3 weeks before our wedding, so technically I will be a Dr., but I’m going with “Mr. and Mrs. HisFirst & MyFirst HisLast.”  I don’t really want to make an annoucement about the whole doctor thing (since I will be a brand spanking new Dr!), and like @FutureMrs.Martin mentioned, I’m looking forward to being called Mr and Mrs.  🙂

    I plan on only using the “Dr.” title professionally… in all other circles and outside of work, I want to be called “MyFirst” or “Mrs. HisLast” 



    Post # 6
    355 posts
    Helper bee

    I love Mrs. DG’s suggestion!!   I have been to a wedding where they were introduced as “for the first time as husband and wife, Dr. James Smith and Dr. Mary Jones.”  I don’t think anyone thought it was pretentious.  They met in med school and partly what drew them to each other is their intense commitment to patient care.  It also saved her from having to answer the question, “are you going to change your name?” a zillion times.  Having seen many friends go through it, med school, residency, is no joke and something to be proud of. 

    Post # 7
    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    If you’re not taking his name, I’d go with Your First & His First, as Mrs. DG suggested. I don’t think Dr. is too pretentious, but it’s a little strange if you won’t have the same last name (like you tried too hard to include it!).

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