Post # 1
Gonna give you the short version…
Fiance and I have a church booked for the ceremony and a place booked for the reception. I love the reception venue, always have. The biggest issue I have with it is that it’s around a hour from both our hometowns and a hour and 20 mins from where we live now. Its not a deal breaker though. Well this new place just opened in the same town as the current wedding venues that is a beautiful place too. It has a loft feel which I secretly kind of wanted all along. This space can accommodate our ceremony in one space and reception in the other. The reception space is a little larger than our current venue which is good…gives us a little more room for our extras(lounge, photobooth) without being so tight. The 2 venues we have booked are only around 5-7 mins from each other, but we like the fact that the new venue can hold b/ ceremony and reception in the same location…especially b/c so many of our guests will be driving to this town. There’s some decor things I like better at the new place, and we would not need to spend money on chair covers (the original venue has hideous chairs). There is about a $200 difference in the cost of the venues.
The problem….we can’t have our rehearsal the night before at the new venue. We were going to have to have our rehearsal dinner at a different venue either way so would it be completely random if we have like a semi rehearsal at the rehearsal dinner location?
I’ve been in a bunch of weddings so I know a part of rehearsing is to get an idea of where to stand and the flow of things. I’m not really worried about that as much as making sure my pastor (who is older) is comfortable with us doing our own vows and a wine box ceremony.
So the question, is it completely random to have a rehearsal in a different location than the ceremony?
Oh and we will lose no money on the venues we have booked.
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Post # 4
I’ve been in a few weddings where we did a quick rehersal without the bride about an hour before the ceremony and just had the dinner the night before. Is that possible?
Post # 5
I think that sounds fine – as long as you have pictures of the actual location and can figure out and tell people where to stand with the pictures. You might also want to re-create the length of the aisle so that you can figure out timing. Can you hold the rehearsal on a different day or at a different time at the actual location?
I think either of your venue options sound great, so it’s really up to you and deciding which one you like better.
My only concern from what you wrote is that you may want to discuss personalized vows and a winebox ceremony with your officiant far in advance of the rehearsal dinner. Won’t it be upsetting to find out he wont allow that if it’s the night before? You’ll want to know that far in advance, so you can make adjustments to your ceremony or even look for another officiant who will let you have the ceremony you want.
Post # 6
@bride2beIn2012: We are kind of considering that too.
@Pwitty: We will definitely talk to my pastor about the wine box ceremony and vows before then…probably sometime while doing our counseling. B/c it is farther away it’d be hard to have it another day. Plus 2 of my BMs are in different states and 2 live farther than we do from the venue so that won’t work. Fiance and I talked about having pics of the venue and the layout with us at the rehearsal.
Thanks to both of you for the suggestions and input!!
Post # 7
I’m confused by your post. The dinner is never held at the ceremony venue and is typically at a restaurant. The rehearsal itself is at the ceremony venue.
Post # 8
@Ember78: A lot of the weddings I’ve been in have had their rehearsal dinner at the church where the ceremony is held. We were thinking of having our’s in the church fellowship hall. Either way, it will be at a place where we can bring in our own catering.
Edit: The poll was worded incorrectly. Sorry about that. It was explained in my post, but I didn’t mean to put “dinner” in the poll.