(Closed) Is this realistic?

posted 6 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

You can not rush into a life long relationship like a marriage with a stanger, that is if thats what your talking about, trying to get married to someone you never met.

Post # 4
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’d meet in persn before becoming emotionally attached, and before any money gets passed back and forth. Unfortunately there are a lot of scammers out there and you may not be “talking” to the person you think you are. 

 Also the comment re: Scotland being socialist… It’s not… Scotland has a capitalist free market and while there are certainly many people “on the dole” there, it’s by no means a nation where “everybody is getting money for some reason.”  Her comment strikes me as odd and untrue. And makes me suspicious.

Post # 6
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@2beeornot2bee:  Sounds very dodgy to me, scotland is not a socialist country (trust me i grew up in the UK, I have lods of friends from scotland).

I don’t think it’s a good idea to invest emotionally in someone you have never met in person.

Post # 7
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@2beeornot2bee:  you are so true, i do have her on facebook and have seen her pics and we talk on skype and im. I am suspicious too, when u say “on the dole” you mean people are getting paid right? well she told me something about getting money because she has a kid and doesn’t work. I think she’s rich and doesn’t want to say as she spent uber amounts of money last month for christmas. I would definitely NOT send her any money, this came up on a forum we frequent and I made that point clear to her right off the bat. If she even asks me for a dime, then we are through. She just tells me that guys are basically douchebags and only want one thing and the way that they treat women there is not very good. 

First off being “on the dole” means you get money from the state because (in her case) you have a child and don’t work. If you’re on benefits (On the dole) you are definetly not rich actually you are usually not very well off and don’t have a good education. Also since she is on benefits she has access to free schooling and day care so if she really wants to go to school she can very easily. The fact that she spent a lot of money at Christmas doesn’t prove anything, it’s a documentes fact that people in her situation tend to be reckless with money. Since she didn’twork hard to earn it and it keeps coming in without her having to lift a finger thenwhy not just spend it instead of saving it? Or even better find a job or get an education and stop being a burden on the state? 

Also Scotland is not Saudi Arabia, women are treated fine as in all of the UK. All of my Scottish guy friends are lovely and very respectful of their female friends/girlfriends/wives. This woman is clearly hanging out with the wrong type of men. Which says a lot about her in my opinion.

Do yourself a favour and just let it go.

Post # 8
7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

You are concerned about her finanical status and aren’t willing to give her any money, but yet you want to bring her here and create a life with her after talking for only a few weeks? If you are suspicious of her in any way I don’t think it’s a good idea to get too involved. You should at the very least meet her first, but not bring her over here to create a life with her just because she hates men and neither of you are playing games or want to waste time and want to be married.

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