(Closed) Is this really how it's supposed to be? Want to CANCEL THE WEDDING!!!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I you are not paying give them the option of doing their own!

Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Requiring BMs to get their makeup done, and not paying for it, isnt cool. Let them do their own make up.

Planning a wedding is probably more fun if you dont try to force your closest friends to spend more money than they expected.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Some people just don’t like getting their makeup done. I also think 30 dollars isn’t that much, but when you add it with other cost of being a bridesmaid I can see why they be put off. I do think if brides demand that people get their hair/makeup done that they pay for it.

It seems like you are having a rought day, maybe hand off some responsbilites to your Fi, or one one wedding centered evening. Don’t cancel yoru wedding you are so close to the light at the end of the tunnel. Just take a deep breath, and relax a littl. Good luck on the bar and with your wedding.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Katnisseverdeen:  +1

I wouldnt pay $30 to get my makeup done. $25 is a great price for hair though

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It does seem like a good price, but to some people, they need that extra $50 for a tank of gas, or groceries, etc. and don’t want to spend it on hair and make-up. It would be nice if they could, sure, but if they can’t, just let them do it on their own.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think requiring them to have their hair and makeup done professionally (without you paying for it) crosses the line.

It’s a wedding – not a broadway production.  Let them do their own.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I won’t judge other people’s financial situations – I personally think it’s less than what it could be but still they are most likely already spending quite a bit to be in the wedding as it is.  I am having my girls get their hair done, but leavining make up up to them – they are welcome to get it done or not.  (I am not paying for either hair or make up).  Unless they are a train wreck with putting make up on, then I say they should be okay doing it on their own.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I can absolutely relate!  I was saying to my Fiance quite a few members of our wedding party are the ones causing me the most stress.  They dont want to pay for hair and makeup, they dont want to get their dresses.  They have each known about the dress since January and here it is 3 months until the wedding and some of the dresses still arent purchased.  The best man is being a complete and utter a**hole and wont  get fitted for his tux or pay the $20 deposit…it is ridiculous.  

The idea of eloping sounds better and better as time passes….to bad the $5k we have already put down is non-refundable or I would be flying off to a private island just mne and my Fiance.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Please let them do their own make-up if they want to. I hate having my make-up done and way prefer to do it myself!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

also on a side note…it really wouldnt be that difficult to save $50 over the course of the next few months…just a small bit out of each paycheck and they will be good to go.  I set the expectation up front that the girls can get their hair and makeup done and although not a requirement, I would prefer they did.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you want it done professionally, then you need to foot the bill. Your financial situation is irrelevant here. I’d let the ladies choose whether or not they want it done, which will completely solve your dilemma.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Bakerina:  I agree.

I wouldn’t pay $30 to have my makeup done as a bridesmaid because I love makeup, am good at doing it, and could do my own for much less expense.  If you are requiring that they get their hair and makeup done, you should pay for it.  Budgets are tight for a lot of us, but you either need to make it optional or pay for it.

The hair price is great and I would pay that no problem.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Personally, I wouldn’t feel right forcing my friends to pay for hair and makeup. I think it’s okay to share with them that you would like them to do so but understand if they are financially unable or would rather do it themselves. I knew I had a few BMs who couldn’t afford to get their hair done, but I wanted them to have it professionally done. So even though I was broke, I forked over the cash. I understand completely that you’re stressed and broke, but it’s just the right thing to do if you’re going to force them to do it. 

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