(Closed) Is this really how it's supposed to be? Want to CANCEL THE WEDDING!!!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

As good as the prices may be, going optional is the best bet if you can’t afford to pay for it (which is fine).

Don’t let it get you down. I know you’re near the end of the process and it’s stressful, but don’t let this have a negative effect on your upcoming wedding, your happiness, or your friendships. 

Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@meanttobee:  Yup, if you want it done, YOU pay for it.

 

$30 for makeup?!!??! Pffft! Yea too much when they can do it themselves. 

Post # 33
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412 posts
Helper bee

My sister got married in May, I was Maid/Matron of Honor and I had my hair and makeup done. Some other girls did their own. I don’t see why you would care. I mean are you thinking they would all have the same eyeshadow color? Otherwise no one will know who applied anyones makeup. If I did it over again I probably would have done my own makeup. No offense to the lady that did mine, but 1- I have my ‘this is me in makeup’ look down pat and it doesn’t include brown eyeshadow to match my brown hair and 2 before the wedding I realized I had black dots on my face, tried to brush them off and they smeared. It was mascara. So she had to touch me up. But if she had already left I would have been screwed, I didn’t bring my own (and i’ve never had my mascara smear). 

Post # 34
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

People can be weird about make-up and aren’t into having someone else do it.  The hair price is great, but let them have the option on the make-up. 

Post # 35
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I feel like having to have your makeup done as a bridesmaid is a bit silly. The only one that NEEDS to look especially polished is the bride. Everyone else can wear their makeup as they normally would to a nice occasion.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

$30 is super reasonable!!!! I am not requiring my girls because I can’t afford it either, but they have all asked me how I want their hair/makeup to look. I really don’t care about makeup for them but I do want their hair to be more done up than just a blowout. So hopefully they don’t change their tune!! 🙂

Post # 37
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391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Wow… I just paid $75 for hair and $75 for makeup as a bridesmaid at my friend’s wedding.  I would LOVE your prices…

Post # 38
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144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@meanttobee:  It’s not too much for makeup or hair, but the day isn’t about any of that. It’s about you and the love of your life uniting in marriage. That is all that’s important, and it’s very important to keep that in mind!!

Post # 39
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326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

$30?  IN FLORIDA?  And they’re complaining?  The lowest I found for my wedding was $85 for bridesmaids ($100 for bride) until I found a woman who was a friend of my MOH’s mother and cut me a deal for $55/bridesmaid and $85/bride.  And everyone thought that was AWESOME!

You can give them the option – tell them – you can get your makeup done for $30…. or you can do it yourself.  I only had 1 bridesmaid do her own makeup and it’s only because she does her makeup amazing and she has super sensitive skin and uses all kinds of special products (or she gets rashes). 

Post # 40
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

hey. just wanted to say…BREATHE. i’m in the same boat. 4 months. beyond stressed (mine is work, not bar, but…i TOTALLY relate).  people tell me that after the next 2 months it will get better. i just kinda am bummed that i’m not ENJOYING the planning. the girls are prima donna-ey. it’s just not what i expected.

we’ll get thru it! we HAVE to!!!

Post # 41
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would never ask my girls to pay to do their hair or makeup – I’m just going to say, ‘please wear your hair up,’ or ‘I don’t care how you wear your hair,’ ‘do your own makeup if you want, if you want someone to do it for you – Amy, one of the bridesmaids does make up, I can see what she will charge you.’

It’s bad enough that they have to pay for dresses, shoes, and then gifts… No way.

Besides – if you have everyone all ‘made up’ it’s so unnatural… they won’t look like themselves… think of it that way 😉

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You can’t get upset if you aren’t paying for it.  I couldn’t afford to do both for my girls so I chose what was most important to me and that was hair.  So I am paying for their hair and I gave them the option of getting their make up done.  Three out of the five chose to pay for their own make up. 

Maybe try this instead.

Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

to clarify…i meant your girls are being prima-donna-ey…didn’t mean mine. but still, i relate in lotsa ways.. hang in there!!!

 

Post # 44
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381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think the pricing is reasonable! but I agree with some others on the meak up – some people just prefer to do their own ( I do too) hair on the other hand, YUP I cant do my own for anything, at least not anything fancy.  I would love to pay for my bridesmaids hair, but its just not in my budget, so I didnt ask them to get it professionaly done – I only asked them to look pretty and clean! 🙂

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