- 4 years ago
Regular Bee going anon for this.
I am a bridesmaid to a friend who is getting married in a few months. She requested a “getaway weekend” for her bachelorette party, and the maid of honor has since planned something along that line to honor her requests. The bride also asked for it to be combined with a bridal shower, which the Maid/Matron of Honor has decided to turn into a lingerie shower to help keep costs down for the girls footing the bill.
I know there are multiple etiquette faux pas happening here. That’s not what is at issue for me at this moment. I want to know what you girls feel is a reasonable amount to be asked to spend on a bachelorette.
I told the Maid/Matron of Honor (a good friend) that I was good for $100 when she started planning (we are very tight on cash right now), and she told me it would probably be more than that per person but that they would work with whatever I could spend. I received the estimated accommodations cost, and it will be $100 per person for the weekend (we are spending two nights and rooms are $200-$225 per night with 4 people to a room.)
So in my head here are my calculations:
$100 for hotel
$10 to chip in for gas
$30 personal cover charges (assuming 3 $10 covers)
$40 personal drinks (assuming 4-5 drinks)
$20 for lingerie shower gift
$50 food (assuming two meals out)
$20 bride’s covers, drinks, food, etc.
Total cost : approximately $270 for the weekend, per person
Unless you choose not to drink, then $230
This is also presuming everyone shows up, as there are two to three people who say they are flying in for this event but who I seriously doubt have purchased plane tickets yet.
Is this reasonable? I may be able to stretch my budget to $150, but we are *very* tight on cash right now. I think I would feel slimy saying “I only have $150 for the whole weekend so I will pay $50 into accommodations and you guys will have to shoulder all the gas costs, as well as all costs for the bride” (and also not drink, which would be necessary to keep the costs in budget). That seems wrong to me.
Just wanted to get another perspective on this before I decide how to respond. I’m not entirely sure I can go at this point, which makes me sad, but it also makes me sad that such an expensive location/length/format was selected.