(Closed) Is this request reasonable?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

So in response to your question, um No.

If she has some kind of condition where she needs pretzels and water. The she should just bring them with her. Perhaps you could suggest a restaurant where she can go, get a snack, and wait.

Or you should do a receiving line after the ceremony so that you use some of that time and also it would mean that guests like the one you are talking about could skip the reception.

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m not a huge fan of gaps for weddings, but I know they can be common in some areas, and if the invitation clearly states the start time of the reception than your guests can cope.

Is there some sort of cafe in the area that you can direct your FMIL’s friend to?  My venue has told me several times that they start the reception time when the first guest arrives.  The rental fee is 5 hours of actual party time, so if guests arrive before actual start time, I get charged extra.  If that’s the case for you, tell Future Mother-In-Law that.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I think this is one that you are just going to have to comply with. Maybe you can have a little snack in a cute bag and bring it to the church so that your fmil can take it with her. If your site is not open I agree with Zusie, maybe suggest a resturant or a coffee shop or a little park that is on the way.

I don’t know what kind of condition she has, but if she needs a snack she needs a snack. I have a few friends who are very diabetic and need little snacks throughout the day to stay at decent levels. For that reason we are going to have little bags of trail mix and things around. I don’t know if that is something you can work in, but with a late wedding and a possibly even later dinner it might be a good idea to have snacks for all your guests during that gap.

Post # 7
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813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think she should throw some pretzels and a bottle of water in her purse! The last thing you want to do is worry about coordinating one more thing.. I’d say leave it up to your Fiance since he offered to take care of it. Try to distance yourself fromit… i.e. if Future Mother-In-Law asks if the venue said ok, just respond with “I don’t know, Fiance said he would look after that..”

Good luck!

Post # 8
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786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

its not too hard to get a little snack and a small bottle of water to bring with in her purse. The VERY last thing I would ever agree to do on my wedding day is get someone snacks between the ceremony and reception (and I would tell my Fiance that after the ceremony, its our time to spend those first moments together as husband and wife – not to deliver snacks to waiting guests. So he really wont be able to hand deliver them). If its really important to your Future Mother-In-Law, have her delegate the task to one of her close friends.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

@CarolineM:  Ha, I was seriously laughing to myself when I read your post.  That is a very unreasonable request.  I think even asking to go to the reception site that early is unreasonable, let alone asking for snacks.  Hello, put a snack bag in your own purse, or stop off at a restaurant/bar and get a snack and a drink!  I know that some people are annoyed by having a gap (as a guest, I agree it’s not the most fun thing) but sometimes you really can’t help it.  I’m having a gap at my wedding, but I live in Chicago and unless the ceremony and reception is in the same location, I think it’s pretty common to have gaps here b/c it takes a while to navigate through the city, and a lot of churches down here are strict on what time you can have your ceremony.  Anyways, they are adults and that is not something that you should have to worry about!  Your FH shouldn’t either, so I hope he’s not going to run over there to give this woman a bag of pretzels on HIS wedding day!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m really not sure why this should be something YOU have to worry about.  We’re talking about a bottle of water and a bag of pretzels!  She should be able to manage that on her own.  Man.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would say she can manage her own snacks and if she wants to sit and wait at the reception venue then so be it!

 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would say nope to your question, but I would say “there’s a coffee shop near the site, where you can get a beverage” and leave it at that.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Can Future Mother-In-Law just take care of it? Bring the snacks for her and make sure she has a place to go during the break? Why is this your problem if it’s FMIL’s friend?

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