(Closed) Is this ridiculous or am I being a brat?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

get some tights!

Post # 4
2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you will probably just have to let it go.  You already brought it up to her and she shot the idea down, so I’m not really sure there’s anything else you can do.  At the end of the day, it should really be her decision…and if she’s not happy with how the bridesmaids look in the pictures then it will be her fault, not yours.

Post # 5
368 posts
Helper bee

I’m sorry, but I think you have to let it go. My friend got married 2 summers ago and had REDICULOUS dresses. Like full puffy mattress-style dresses. It was almost 100 degrees and we were ROASTING. But, it was her wedding and she’s the bride. Especially if you’ve already brought it up to your friend, not much more you can do.

Post # 6
1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

It’s her decision, but she may come around.  I wanted tea length dresses at first, then I thought about the outdoor photos, and reconsidered.  Give her some time to think about it, like this winter if she decides to spend any time outdoors in a dress, lol. 

Post # 7
2394 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010



Post # 8
3124 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

you should make some ridiculous leg warmers that attach by velcro!  whip those babies off at the last second.  It’d cost about 5 cents to make if you have any busted old sweaters lying around in your closet.. just get a velcro strip @ a home store.  I agree that it’s kind of crazy cold for that, but hey, pics can’t last very long right??

Post # 9
11826 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

I agree, let it go.  It sounds like she has put a lot of thought into it.  You’ll be warm enough for the photos, and then you won’t have to be outside anymore.  Also, I think it could look cute, not necessarily weird.

Post # 10
1565 posts
Bumble bee

I think you mention two issues:

1) You being freezing and miserable

2) Outfits/photos looking “weird”

I think the first is a valid concern, and, especially if the other girls feel this way, you aren’t being a brat by bringing it up. If this is really what matters to you, rather than aesthetic concerns, I would explain this to her without telling her the pictures won’t come out nicely.

As for the second, I don’t know if I would insist on this line of reasoning too much, as it’s up to her what she wants photos to look like. But maybe I would suggest doing a trial (have a couple of the girls try on the dresses and take some pictures to see if she likes the look.

Post # 11
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would just let it go!

You offered your suggestions and she didn’t go for it and so there is not much else you can do!

I personally don’t mind the look of a short dress under a coat and I am sure she won’t keep you guys out there too long!

Have fun at your post-wedding wedding – I am sure it is going to feel quite different and relaxing!

Post # 12
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010 - Marie Gabrielle, Dallas

I don’t think it’s a big deal, and I like the look of some leg showing with coats.  But maybe I’m weird.  And hey, at least the wedding isn’t outside, and hopefully the pics she wants to take outside won’t take that long. 

Post # 13
519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I think this is just one of those times when you are going to have to suck it up. I know winter sucks and to be in a tea-length is really going to suck, but they’re her pictures, and if she ends up hating them…her fault. I think you already brought it up to her, she said no, just let it go. As much as it sucks that you girls are going to freeze, it’s her wedding and if you pester her about it, she’s going to get frustrated.

Post # 14
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Show her some pictures of BMs in what she wants you to wear, and then in long dresses with coats and see what she thinks.  Say something like “I just wanted you to see the comparison, and I’ll wear whatever you want but I would hate for you to regret not getting long dresses once you see the pictures” or something along those lines. That way, you’re getting your point across, and possibly opening her eyes to something that she may actually love (but doesn’t want to give up her vision). Trust me, we all understand the “vision” but I changed mine several times when given other options that it turned out I liked better

Post # 15
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

As someone from the midwest–we often wear short dresses in the middle of winter (New Year’s Eve, anyone?!). While it is cold I don’t think the pics will look that ridiculous. I suggest investing in some good, warm nylons and maybe bringing a pair of sweatpants to put on while you’re not being used. Also, with global warming it’s been a lot warmer here in December! =) Good luck!

Post # 16
3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Eh, not a big deal. Remember Mrs. Espresso’s wedding? I think they were all freezing, including her. And ultimately, they’re her pics, so I wouldn’t worry about whether or not they’ll be odd looking.

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