Post # 1
Well, I am going to be in my first post-wedding wedding (that is, i will be a bridesmaid for the first time after having my own wedding). Here is the issue. The wedding is next December in the midwest. The bride is intent on us taking outdoor pics (at least for some of the pics). She has even ordered matching coats for all of the bridesmaids for the pics. I think it will be super cute.
here is my concern, we are wearing short dresses. It is going to late december, outdoors in the midwest and we will be in cocktail length dresses! Granted, we will have coats on, but I feel like it will look really silly for our legs to be exposed in these pics. Don’t get me wrong, I think it might be super cute, but she will be in a wedding dress, the guys will be in tuxes, all with coats, and, oh, here are my half naked bridesmaids who were freezing to death.
I just think it is going to look weird- wearing coats with short skirts… not to mention that we will be freezing. I have tried to suggest to the bride that we get long dresses, but she is totally on the “nope, this is my vision” bandwagon (which I DO understand).
Should I just let it go and 1) be miserable and freezing and 2) have odd looking pics or should I try to get her to think about other options.
Post # 4
I think you will probably just have to let it go. You already brought it up to her and she shot the idea down, so I’m not really sure there’s anything else you can do. At the end of the day, it should really be her decision…and if she’s not happy with how the bridesmaids look in the pictures then it will be her fault, not yours.
Post # 5
I’m sorry, but I think you have to let it go. My friend got married 2 summers ago and had REDICULOUS dresses. Like full puffy mattress-style dresses. It was almost 100 degrees and we were ROASTING. But, it was her wedding and she’s the bride. Especially if you’ve already brought it up to your friend, not much more you can do.
Post # 6
It’s her decision, but she may come around. I wanted tea length dresses at first, then I thought about the outdoor photos, and reconsidered. Give her some time to think about it, like this winter if she decides to spend any time outdoors in a dress, lol.
Post # 8
you should make some ridiculous leg warmers that attach by velcro! whip those babies off at the last second. It’d cost about 5 cents to make if you have any busted old sweaters lying around in your closet.. just get a velcro strip @ a home store. I agree that it’s kind of crazy cold for that, but hey, pics can’t last very long right??
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
I agree, let it go. It sounds like she has put a lot of thought into it. You’ll be warm enough for the photos, and then you won’t have to be outside anymore. Also, I think it could look cute, not necessarily weird.
Post # 10
I think you mention two issues:
1) You being freezing and miserable
2) Outfits/photos looking “weird”
I think the first is a valid concern, and, especially if the other girls feel this way, you aren’t being a brat by bringing it up. If this is really what matters to you, rather than aesthetic concerns, I would explain this to her without telling her the pictures won’t come out nicely.
As for the second, I don’t know if I would insist on this line of reasoning too much, as it’s up to her what she wants photos to look like. But maybe I would suggest doing a trial (have a couple of the girls try on the dresses and take some pictures to see if she likes the look.
Post # 11
I would just let it go!
You offered your suggestions and she didn’t go for it and so there is not much else you can do!
I personally don’t mind the look of a short dress under a coat and I am sure she won’t keep you guys out there too long!
Have fun at your post-wedding wedding – I am sure it is going to feel quite different and relaxing!
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2010 - Marie Gabrielle, Dallas
I don’t think it’s a big deal, and I like the look of some leg showing with coats. But maybe I’m weird. And hey, at least the wedding isn’t outside, and hopefully the pics she wants to take outside won’t take that long.
Post # 13
I think this is just one of those times when you are going to have to suck it up. I know winter sucks and to be in a tea-length is really going to suck, but they’re her pictures, and if she ends up hating them…her fault. I think you already brought it up to her, she said no, just let it go. As much as it sucks that you girls are going to freeze, it’s her wedding and if you pester her about it, she’s going to get frustrated.
Post # 14
Show her some pictures of BMs in what she wants you to wear, and then in long dresses with coats and see what she thinks. Say something like “I just wanted you to see the comparison, and I’ll wear whatever you want but I would hate for you to regret not getting long dresses once you see the pictures” or something along those lines. That way, you’re getting your point across, and possibly opening her eyes to something that she may actually love (but doesn’t want to give up her vision). Trust me, we all understand the “vision” but I changed mine several times when given other options that it turned out I liked better
Post # 15
As someone from the midwest–we often wear short dresses in the middle of winter (New Year’s Eve, anyone?!). While it is cold I don’t think the pics will look that ridiculous. I suggest investing in some good, warm nylons and maybe bringing a pair of sweatpants to put on while you’re not being used. Also, with global warming it’s been a lot warmer here in December! =) Good luck!
Post # 16
Eh, not a big deal. Remember Mrs. Espresso’s wedding? I think they were all freezing, including her. And ultimately, they’re her pics, so I wouldn’t worry about whether or not they’ll be odd looking.