Is this ring too big for me?

posted 10 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
379 posts
Helper bee

It’s beautiful 🙂 if you love it go for it! It looks great on you and gives you awesome finger coverage…rock it girl !

ETA : I’m not a huge fan of that band you paired with it though, it’s too chunky and I feel like it takes away from the beautiful solitaire 

Post # 3
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2020

I do love the ring especially with the band. Very classic but still enough bling (in my opinion lol) are you comfortable with sharing that it’s a moissanite? If you are and have no qualms then I’d say go for it. If you don’t want to share that info with every stranger on the street I’d say go for a 2.5 or 2.75 carat equivalent. For me it does look a little “suspiciously large” and I think just a slightly smaller stone would be a perfect fit for your finger while still giving you plenty of coverage. 

Post # 4
560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!

What do YOU think? What does your fiance think? That’s all that really matters. 

Post # 5
259 posts
Helper bee

Not a fan.

Post # 6
3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2006

I personally think it’s a bit OTT, but it’s about what YOU love. Not us! I’m a size 7.5 and I don’t think I’d go over a 1.5 carat equivalent, but that’s just me! I’m also really concerned with “believability” and anyone that knows me is fully aware that I don’t have the money to buy a flawless 3 carat diamond. Even if I did, they definitely know I’m too cheap to actually do it. 

FWIW, I’m getting Moissanite, but a three stone ring with a 7mm center and 5mm side stones. All near colorless, again, for believability. I agree with a PP that sometimes Moissanite can look “suspiciously large” so I’d get a size that’s in line with your lifestyle and income. All just my opinion though! 

ETA: if you’re starting a thread asking if it’s too big, I’d say you already think it may be. Go with your gut. You don’t want to buy something and feel like hiding your hand as soon as you leave the store! Thats why I bumped my stone sizes down. I decided modest was better so I could actually enjoy wearing it and not worrying about side eye. 

Post # 7
373 posts
Helper bee

I love it.

It looks very “diamond like” for a moissy. 


Post # 8
179 posts
Blushing bee

I agree with PP that it is beautiful however at the same time it definitely looks suspiciously large (that or like a cocktail ring) which means I think it would come down to whether you are concerned about whether it would pass as a mined diamond or not..

I remember seeing an acquaintances diamond that looked exactly like yours (same finger coverage and all) and wondering how they afforded it. Then I joined this site after becoming engaged and came to know about moissanite/lab grown diamonds and now I do doubt whether her diamond is a mined diamond or something else whenever I think about it (out of pure curiosity). Not that there is anything wrong with whether it is ‘real’ or not however my point is it comes down to whether you’d be concerned about people questioning it.

Post # 9
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

For my taste yeah. Too much. Your fingers honestly aren’t even that big.

But heres the thing. It doesn’t matter what I or anyone else thinks. If YOU love those big rings then own it and rock it! You and I or anyone else do not have to share the same personal taste! Think of how boring it would be if we all wore the same things 🙂

So yeah if you like it go for it! And I do like that wedding band with it. I bet they both sparkle like crazy together 🙂

Post # 10
1025 posts
Bumble bee

alemonpav :  Too big for my personal taste. I have very similar finger size to you, with short fingers but long nailbeds that make my fingers feel a bit stumpier/pudgier tha they really are. For a diamond, my “sweet spot” is 7.5mm. In a thread somewhere, I have a photo of part of my finger with a 7mm round diamond. I could probably comfortably go up to an 8mm diamond diameter in a round (my e-ring is a different shape). I like moissanite, but I like it to be sized small enough so that it looks sparkly without being able to see the facets and refractions that make it distinctly moissy on the hand, or “cocktail sized” to be mistaken for a CZ. My worst nightmare would be to buy a large, beautiful, sparkly stone that cost a generous amount (moissy) and have it be mistaken for a CZ (there’s a thousand dollar difference!). 9mm-9.5mm is what I buy for gemstone rings because I love the finger coverage, though, so it proportionally is great on your hand. It really depends on what you are going for. If you love it, get it. 

Post # 11
1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

alemonpav :  I don’t think it’s too big, and I LOVE it!

As someone who loves big bling, I also feel like WeddingBee tends to really skew toward smaller stones. 

At the end of the day, you gotta do what’s best for you.

Post # 12
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

It would definitely be too big for me personally but go with what you like!  The style itself is gorgeous!

Post # 13
1358 posts
Bumble bee

  Ering borders on too big for ‘my’ tastes, but with a plain or dainty  band would be pretty. Don’t like it with the chunky band. 

Post # 14
352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

It’s perfect! I like the band too. I’m a fan of large stone wedding bands. 

Post # 15
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

In my opinion it’s too large, but it’s beautiful and if you love it than buy it!

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