- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I want to start by saying that in Australia, it is pukingly common for people to send awful poems in their invitations saying that there will be a “wishing well” and they want MONEYMONEYMONEY. Because, you know, if it rhymes it’s totally not gross. Such as this beauty:
Because at first we lived in sin
We’ve got the sheets and a rubbish bin
A gift from you would be swell
But we’d prefer a donation to our Wishing Well!
Anyway, I REFUSE to do this. But really, if people are going to give us anything, we do need money, not “stuff”.
Going against the charming Aussie tradition, there will be no mention of gifts in my invites. On our wedding website, however, I am thinking of writing something like this in the FAQs section:
“We don’t need gifts, we just want to spend the day with those closest to us. We have lived together for years and years, so we have a bunch of stuff already. We also have a tiny house so have nowhere to fit any of the traditional homeware wedding gifts at this stage in our lives. After more than 8 years together, the biggest holiday we’ve managed is a week of camping, and at this stage we will not be having a honeymoon, and we would like to work on making that possible before adding to our collection of things. We are hoping to create a marriage based more on shared experiences than shared possessions.”
Is it too much? Too rude? Too tacky? Too rambly? (rhetorical question, I know it is). Not obvious enough (as everyone seems to be used to being slapped in the face with GIVEMEMONEYBECAUSEICANRHYME! I’d remove the second half of it but I don’t think people would get it.
We will also be spreading the word through word of mouth, but a lot of our guests would probably miss that message.
Also, in case you are wondering, I had considered a honeymoon registry, but they all either charge too many fees for it to be worth it (we are only having a small wedding) or are not Aussie friendly. Or some travel agencies do registries but you have to pay for your entire honeymoon upfront, and as I wouldn’t know what we’d get as gifts, it is too risky.
Let me know what you think and how I can make it better.