Post # 1
I am slowly starting to collect addresses of the people we want to invite to our wedding.I sent a batch of 5 emails and messages on facebook to 5 people lastnight.I have seen at least three of them write a couple post on facebook about random things in their lives today.
And yet no messages from them about their address or anything.No peep what so ever.
Is that rude or am I imagining it?When u got a request for your address for a invite to a wedding,how long did it take for u to respond?Even if your answer was a no thank you?
I already sent a request to 2 cousins of mine a couple months ago and sent one more request to each of them a week ago.I figure if I dont hear from them,they obviously dont want to go.I sent it to them through facebook and they are always on.
But the people I sent requests to last night are decent people and Im surprised I havent heard a word from them!!
If you dont want to go fine.But at least send me a message that u cannot make it.Dont completely ignore me!
Am I over the top,or am I correct?
Post # 3
You sent them last night? You could give people a little more time before you decide they are being rude. It’s the weekend.
Post # 3
I do understand your frustration, especially since you’ve seen that they’ve been online, but I think that you should give them a few more days to respond and if they don’t, call them. Don’t just assume that they don’t want to go because they aren’t responding on facebook or email.
Post # 4
Sometimes messages do not show up right off the bat if they are using their phone to post.
But they might not get back to you till monday, since its the weekend. My advice to you is to stop over-analyzing and being hyper critical or you are going to drive yourself crazy before the wedding even happens.
Post # 5
Not everyone is on their computer checking their messages as often as you! I think you need to relax, you just sent them last night.
Post # 6
I get how you feel. Took me forever to get a reply from a family member for an address and I could see her update her status and even write on my wall all the time. She just didn’t see the message from me. Give them some time to respond and if you don’t hear anything, ask again.
Post # 7
I hardly check my Facebook messages because I usually get invited to stupid events or parties out of state and they update them EVERYDAY with message reminders. If it’s not that, it’s random ass spam.
Also, I don’t always get my notifications for messages in the same timely manner in the same way if someone writes on my wall. I don’t know if this happens to other people, but it happens often to me.
Give them a little more time before you get frustrated. It’s not worth it to get stressed so soon.
Post # 8
I’m attached at the hip to my iphone, so I typically get back to people fairly quickly, but I’d still give them a bit of time. Who knows, they might not know their postal code (zipcode?) off the top of their heads. I work in an office where I consistently have to ask people for this information, and you’d be surprised how many people don’t!
Post # 9
as above from everybody else, but also, I NEVER send messages via facebook (espeically for a wedding!) because some people don’t even know how to check their messages on facebook. I would call them on the phone, or ask them in person next time you see them
Post # 10
I am notorious for checking messages and waiting to reply. Either I’ll check them at work, or on my phone and won’t have the time or be able to reply.
I wouldn’t read anything into it.
If you don’t hear from them in a couple of weeks try again.
Post # 11
AHHHH tell me about it.
I had one person never write me their address, I was then able to get her address from a Bridesmaid or Best Man (the Bridesmaid or Best Man CCed her in the message), sent invite, nothing, time goes by, other Bridesmaid or Best Man publically asks her on her FB wall if she’s going, Finally replies with no and that she was too buisy to reply.
Really you cannot be so F***** buisy that you could not write me your address!!!
I don’t get people!
I love my BMs casue I don’t think I would have gotten a peep out of her.
Post # 12
1. I currently can’t check my messages or updates because something is wrong with facebook… (this started last night) It’s not happening for everyone but out of the people I’ve asked 3 out of 5 can’t check theirs either.
2. I use my phone to update my status a lot without checking my messages until I get to a computer and since it’s the weekend you may have to wait till Monday for an actual reply since that’s difficult on cell phones.
Hope I didn’t repeat what everyone else said lol.
Post # 13
Thanks bees for talking me down from my crazy place!lol..for these people however to not respond is surprising.They usually respond within the hour of a message from me.So maybe facebook is not working for them too.
And my cousins.Two months ago I asked them for it.Heard nothing.
So I have calmed down.lol…anybody else worrying about something that no one else cares about?Or thinks your insane for worrying about it?lol.
Post # 14
If you are this anxious now, you will have a cow when waiting for RSVPs to come back.
Relax! Give them a couple days. People don’t always respond to messages as fast as they respond to a wall post.
Post # 15
I think 72 hours is a more reasonable expected response time than just last night.