(Closed) Is this rude??

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

You sent them last night? You could give people a little more time before you decide they are being rude. It’s the weekend.

Post # 3
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602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I do understand your frustration, especially since you’ve seen that they’ve been online, but I think that you should give them a few more days to respond and if they don’t, call them. Don’t just assume that they don’t want to go because they aren’t responding on facebook or email.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Sometimes messages do not show up right off the bat if they are using their phone to post.

But they might not get back to you till monday, since its the weekend. My advice to you is to stop over-analyzing and being hyper critical or you are going to drive yourself crazy before the wedding even happens.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Not everyone is on their computer checking their messages as often as you! I think you need to relax, you just sent them last night.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I get how you feel. Took me forever to get a reply from a family member for an address and I could see her update her status and even write on my wall all the time. She just didn’t see the message from me. Give them some time to respond and if you don’t hear anything, ask again. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I hardly check my Facebook messages because I usually get invited to stupid events or parties out of state and they update them EVERYDAY with message reminders. If it’s not that, it’s random ass spam.

Also, I don’t always get my notifications for messages in the same timely manner in the same way if someone writes on my wall. I don’t know if this happens to other people, but it happens often to me.

Give them a little more time before you get frustrated. It’s not worth it to get stressed so soon.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m attached at the hip to my iphone, so I typically get back to people fairly quickly, but I’d still give them a bit of time.  Who knows, they might not know their postal code (zipcode?) off the top of their heads.  I work in an office where I consistently have to ask people for this information, and you’d be surprised how many people don’t!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

as above from everybody else, but also, I NEVER send messages via facebook (espeically for a wedding!) because some people don’t even know how to check their messages on facebook. I would call them on the phone, or ask them in person next time you see them

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I am notorious for checking messages and waiting to reply. Either I’ll check them at work, or on my phone and won’t have the time or be able to reply.

I wouldn’t read anything into it.

If you don’t hear from them in a couple of weeks try again.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

AHHHH tell me about it. 

I had one person never write me their address, I was then able to get her address from a Bridesmaid or Best Man (the Bridesmaid or Best Man CCed her in the message), sent invite, nothing, time goes by, other Bridesmaid or Best Man publically asks her on her FB wall if she’s going, Finally replies with no and that she was too buisy to reply.

Really you cannot be so F***** buisy that you could not write me your address!!!

I don’t get people!

I love my BMs casue I don’t think I would have gotten a peep out of her.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

2 things:

1. I currently can’t check my messages or updates because something is wrong with facebook… (this started last night) It’s not happening for everyone but out of the people I’ve asked 3 out of 5 can’t check theirs either.

2. I use my phone to update my status a lot without checking my messages until I get to a computer and since it’s the weekend you may have to wait till Monday for an actual reply since that’s difficult on cell phones.

Hope I didn’t repeat what everyone else said lol.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you are this anxious now, you will have a cow when waiting for RSVPs to come back.

Relax! Give them a couple days. People don’t always respond to messages as fast as they respond to a wall post.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think 72 hours is a more reasonable expected response time than just last night.

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