(Closed) Is this rude?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Is this rude?
    I would be extremely offended! : (10 votes)
    20 %
    I'd think it's weird but would get over it. : (16 votes)
    33 %
    Definitely okay! : (22 votes)
    45 %
    Other (please post!) : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    1474 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    It’s obviously accepted in your circle, so go for it! I wouldn’t personally be offended.

    Post # 4
    216 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Like the PP stated, if it seems accepted in your circle then you’d probably be fine doing it.  Nobody really does that where I’m from and I think it’d be a little strange to get an invite like that, but then if I really looked into I would probably understand why (because I just had a wedding and know how dang expensive it is to provide for so many guests).  I think if it’s a normal kinda thing to do around you, then your guests would understand and be excited to just be there to celebrate.

    Post # 5
    2440 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I understand budget issues but is there any way to possibly have a dessert buffet or do cake for all the guests that aren’t going to be at the ceremony or dinner?  I would find it a little weird to be invited for dancing only without any drinks, appetizers, or dessert.  But I have seen a lot of venues offer cake and champagne receptions for pretty cheap.

    Post # 7
    664 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I wouldn’t be offended. It’s not a normal practice in my circle of friends, but it is something we considered doing.

    Post # 8
    14496 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think its unconventional, I’ve never heard of anything like that so hoenstly, I’m not sure what to think of it.  I would talk about it to a few close friends and see how they react.

    Post # 9
    2161 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    A very common custom here!  Everyone opens their dance up to co-workers and friends that you don’t see often.   People get offended if they aren’t told about the dance.  You don’t even need to do a formal invite, word of mouth works here.

    Post # 10
    1036 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My Fiance and I are doing this exact thing.  We have 55 guests for our ceremony and dinner, and another 117 coming for the reception following dinner.  We are providing drinks, a snack table, and cake for all the guests of the reception.

    We wanted an intimate ceremony and small dinner with just our immediate family (going out to aunts/uncles), and closest friends; but we wanted all of our friends and extended family to celebrate with us as well.  This was how we accomplished it while keeping the ceremony intimate and staying on budget.

    Post # 11
    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    When I was in 4th grade our teacher was getting married and she invited her students and their parents to the ceremony but not the reception. No one thought that was weird. She even took a wedding picture with all of her students at the church. I think you could create a separate invitation saying something like, Please celebrate our marriage with an evening of dancing. And you could add please no gifts. I wouldn’t be offended. Weddings are expensive and if I were a friend who was invited to the dance, I would be happy that you would want to include me in your celebration.

    Post # 12
    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I have never heard of doing this but if it is accepted in your circle then go for it

    Post # 13
    7293 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Honestly I don’t understand why people restrict a ceremony but not a reception, when in most cases the reception is what costs money: providing your guests, with food, drink, etc. And when you go to a reception you bring a gift because you are going to a dinner party on crack pretty much. 

    If its accepted and all your guests will know just to dance but not eat or bring a gift, then do it! Sounds like fun!

    Post # 14
    1077 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I went to a wedding once where we were invited to the reception but no the ceremony (which was just in the yard of the reception hall).  Money wasn’t the issue.  The couple just wanted to keep the ceremony really private.  Most people were snickering at the choice, but came anyway, and still loved the couple.  I remember it all these years later, but I can’t say that I was outraged or anything like that.  Don’t invite anyone to a shower that isn’t invited to the whole show, and you should be OK.

    Post # 16
    9 posts
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I think that It’s cool if you are on a budget, really you shouldn’t feel obligated to give what you cannot afford. People should be understaning, I mean times are tough! If your social circle does this already then that means people are ok with it then you should be fine! Have fun! 

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