(Closed) Is this rude?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3120 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think the venue will typically pull a few and put them in a little plate for you.  I think you shoudl just eat them at another time, maybe shortly after.  Will you be doing a grand entrance?  Maybe you could eat them before that? 


ETA:  I’m not sure it would be rude, as much as awkward!  You’re going to want that line to move fast and won’t really have time to be chewing!

Post # 4
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

A receiving line for 130-150 guests?! yowzas. Just doing a little simple math, if you spent 30 seconds talking to each person, this would take an hour minimum (and likely longer). If you are standing in one place for an hour, I think it would be perfectly acceptable to have a waiter bring you some munchies. If it were me though, I would probably do table visits instead.

Edit: Not to mention that this will create a crazy line for your guests to stand in

Post # 6
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think so, I’d hate to be trying to shake your hand or talk to you while eating!

Post # 7
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s not rude to have the venue save some snacks for you, but I think it’s problematic to eat during the receiving line.  As a guest, I’d hate to talk to a bride who has food in her mouth or to shake her hand that she just ate with.  As a bride, I’d hate to have food stuck in my teeth or be eating with a hand that strangers have been touching.

Post # 8
10020 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ok, this is my opinion and I hope it doesn’t sound too harsh, lol.  Rude – a little, yep.  Even worse, you’ll be munching finger foods and then shaking people’s hands in a receiving line.  That doesn’t even sound sanitary – for you or your guests.  Yuck.  I personally think that would make a very bad impression on your guests.  It would make a terrible impression on me, I wouldn’t even shake hands with someone who was munching away on finger foods, sorry.

My suggestion is to be polite enough to wait until you’re finished with receiving your guests and then eat.  If you’re concerned the finger food might run out, have your personal waiter save some out for you and your Darling Husband.


Post # 9
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

At my mothers Uk wedding (in one location) we had the ceremony, a break for drinks and nibbles, then people were rounded up and we had the recieving line on the way into the dining room for tjhe meal. My mum needed a break between the ceremony and the receiving line to do make up retouches/use the toilet/check everything was happening okay etc so we didn’t combine the drinks and nibbles with the receiving line.

We also had the photographer take pictures of the receiving line in action, so eating nibbles while greeting guests would not have looked too pretty. I guess there is no reason why you couldn’t, but it would be messy and look like you were doing two things at once, In My Humble Opinion.

Post # 10
5826 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

We had four of everything put aside for us and it was waiting for us when we entered the reception. Is that a possibility for you? I just think eating during the receiving line is going to mean talking with your mouth full 😉

Post # 13
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You can always do table visits in between course.    Thats when Fiance and I are planning to do it so that we can also enjoy the food.

Post # 14
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Table visits are usually done during dinner, and don’t worry – the cattering staff will make sure you and your fi have a warm meal waiting for you when you are through!

Post # 15
33 posts
  • Wedding: March 2013

I don’t have anything helpful to say but I am dreading having to do table visits and waste half my reception talking to people whom I don’t even know! I know how bad that sounds but seriously, I could care less if I go to a wedding and the bride comes by my table to talk to me.

Post # 16
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We did table visits and it was MUCH easier to say hello to a table then stand in a line for an hour or two talking to people. We got to eat- dance- and mingle! BUT if your heart is set on a receiving line, then it’d probably be best if the staff saved some food on a plate for you that you could eat AFTER you say hello to your guests. 

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