Post # 1
Fiance and I both want to do a receiving line. We want to be able to enjoy our reception without feeling obligated to do table visits and figure a receiving line is the best option to say hello to all of our guests!
However, our ceremony and reception are at the same location. I figure our ceremony will be over in about 20 minutes, and there will be a 10 minute gap between ceremony and cocktail hour. We can’t really dismiss our guests from the ceremony because they need us out of the room as quickly as possibly so they can flip it for the reception.
So, this brings me to my etiquette question. Fiance and I both love finger foods/appetizers. Its our favorite part, food wise, of any wedding. Would it be horribly rude if we had our personal waiter bring us some while we are doing the receiving line and we munch between guests? I’m thinking the answer is yes, but I want to be able to try some of the yummy food we are spending so much money on.
I am hoping that the receiving line (about 130-150 guests) goes quickly.
Or if anyone has any other suggestions, that’d be great! =)
Post # 3
I think the venue will typically pull a few and put them in a little plate for you. I think you shoudl just eat them at another time, maybe shortly after. Will you be doing a grand entrance? Maybe you could eat them before that?
ETA: I’m not sure it would be rude, as much as awkward! You’re going to want that line to move fast and won’t really have time to be chewing!
Post # 4
A receiving line for 130-150 guests?! yowzas. Just doing a little simple math, if you spent 30 seconds talking to each person, this would take an hour minimum (and likely longer). If you are standing in one place for an hour, I think it would be perfectly acceptable to have a waiter bring you some munchies. If it were me though, I would probably do table visits instead.
Edit: Not to mention that this will create a crazy line for your guests to stand in
Post # 5
No we are still doing the grand entrance. Hopefully we will have a half hour or so of the cocktail hour to enjoy. I am hoping that since the receiving line is “during” cocktail hour, people don’t get too chatty with us, ha!
Post # 6
I think so, I’d hate to be trying to shake your hand or talk to you while eating!
Post # 7
It’s not rude to have the venue save some snacks for you, but I think it’s problematic to eat during the receiving line. As a guest, I’d hate to talk to a bride who has food in her mouth or to shake her hand that she just ate with. As a bride, I’d hate to have food stuck in my teeth or be eating with a hand that strangers have been touching.
Post # 8
Ok, this is my opinion and I hope it doesn’t sound too harsh, lol. Rude – a little, yep. Even worse, you’ll be munching finger foods and then shaking people’s hands in a receiving line. That doesn’t even sound sanitary – for you or your guests. Yuck. I personally think that would make a very bad impression on your guests. It would make a terrible impression on me, I wouldn’t even shake hands with someone who was munching away on finger foods, sorry.
My suggestion is to be polite enough to wait until you’re finished with receiving your guests and then eat. If you’re concerned the finger food might run out, have your personal waiter save some out for you and your Darling Husband.
Post # 9
At my mothers Uk wedding (in one location) we had the ceremony, a break for drinks and nibbles, then people were rounded up and we had the recieving line on the way into the dining room for tjhe meal. My mum needed a break between the ceremony and the receiving line to do make up retouches/use the toilet/check everything was happening okay etc so we didn’t combine the drinks and nibbles with the receiving line.
We also had the photographer take pictures of the receiving line in action, so eating nibbles while greeting guests would not have looked too pretty. I guess there is no reason why you couldn’t, but it would be messy and look like you were doing two things at once, In My Humble Opinion.
Post # 10
We had four of everything put aside for us and it was waiting for us when we entered the reception. Is that a possibility for you? I just think eating during the receiving line is going to mean talking with your mouth full 😉
Post # 11
OK, thanks all. maybe we will do table visits. I just hope they don’t take too long. I want to dance!!!
Post # 12
Yes, I’m sure it’s an option to have snacks put aside for us. I think we’ll either do that or suck it up and do table visits.
Thanks everyone! =)
Post # 13
You can always do table visits in between course. Thats when Fiance and I are planning to do it so that we can also enjoy the food.
Post # 14
Table visits are usually done during dinner, and don’t worry – the cattering staff will make sure you and your fi have a warm meal waiting for you when you are through!
Post # 15
I don’t have anything helpful to say but I am dreading having to do table visits and waste half my reception talking to people whom I don’t even know! I know how bad that sounds but seriously, I could care less if I go to a wedding and the bride comes by my table to talk to me.
Post # 16
We did table visits and it was MUCH easier to say hello to a table then stand in a line for an hour or two talking to people. We got to eat- dance- and mingle! BUT if your heart is set on a receiving line, then it’d probably be best if the staff saved some food on a plate for you that you could eat AFTER you say hello to your guests.