(Closed) Is this rude?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

I am really not trying to be snarky here but I think the rude part is making 150 people stand in a receiving line! Blech.

Post # 18
6990 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hi! 😉

I wouldn’t eat during the recieveing line. Messy fingers and all! 🙂 Just have your caterer put some aside for you, and you can munch on them before pictures or before being announced into the recption. 

I feel your pain though. We can’t decide between table visits or recieving line. Honestly, the thought of having to get 300 people through a recieving line sucks. The flip side? I REALLY don’t want to do table visits to 38+ tables. I want to enjoy the reception, not spend the night walking from table to table. I think I might try to convince him to each fast and do our table visits while guests are still eating. 

Post # 19
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Yeaaahh I wouldnt exactly be giving hugs and chomping on food. LOL

But I do understand where you are going with wanting to enjoy the food that you pay for. That is the biggest portion of our wedding. We love food. We are going to eat our food.

Post # 20
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Why not visit with people during cocktail hour?

Post # 21
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I would seriously reconsider dismissing your guests from the ceremony.  We did that and it wasn’t as long as I thought (125 people took about 10 minutes).  People greeted us very quickly because they knew other people were waiting (quick hug, hi, congrats, ooh, ahh, next).  Plus, no one was standing around waiting in line (i hate receiving lines for the stand/wait factor).  I think you’ll be done much more quickly this way, the room can be flipped and you can go enjoy cocktail hour with your guests.

I do not like the idea of snacking while talking to guests – if it were me, I wouldn’t be able to enjoy the food (it would be more like scarfing down snacks) – let alone, trying to talk with my mouth full, potentially dirty fingers, etc.  I don’t think it’s particularly rude (I wouldn’t think anything of it, if I was greeting a couple and they were snacking – other than – they must have not eaten all day)… but, I wouldn’t recommend it either.

Post # 22
11269 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

snacking during your receiving line?  no.

first of all, you are going to need both hands for hugs and handshakes and second of all, why do you want food in your mouth while talking to your guests?  i would be concerned of something in my teeth and not being able to excuse myself to go the the ladies room. 

have the venue put a little plate aside for you and your hubby or just do table visits later.

Post # 23
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Its not the rudest thing in the world, but some people will notice it and find it rude. But I kind of side with the bee’s who have said it sounds more awkward than anything else! It just sounds distracting and like you’ll be chewing and trying to talk to people…

Overall, I don’t think its a huge deal. If its the only way you can make it all work, do what you have to.


Post # 24
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We decided against the receiving line, and decided to do pictures directly after the ceremony and then show up to our cocktail hour fornthe last 30 min and work the room with our guests.

As my personal opinion, receiving lines seem informal. You get to spend max 30 seconds with a guest, and they get to wait in a huge line up to do just that, spend 30 pointless seconds with you.

Post # 25
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

We’re skipping the receiving line specifically because our ceremony/reception are at the same venue. We’re doing a first look, so we’ll have family photos immediately after the ceremony, then we plan to join the last half of the cocktail hour, so we’ll be able to greet some people then.

With your number of guests, that could be 13-15 tables (assuming 10 people at each)- not too bad to hit during dinner. You and Fiance could eat your appetizers during that 10 minute gap, then do your pictures.

I agree with daybyday , I hate waiting in receiving lines! Another option I’ve seen at a wedding- the guests say seated, and the B&G stop at every aisle to welcome their guests.

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