Post # 1
I want to make escort cards for the reception but there are some plus ones that I don’t know either first or last names or both. Is it rude if I just put the person I know and then party? For example John Smith’s Party.
Post # 3
@imanw: I think you should find out their names.
Post # 4
I would contact the guest you do know and ask their +1’s name. I recently went to a wedding and the seating chart said “kb7 and guest” even though my friend knows my SO well and we’ve been together for 6 years! I have a feeling her mom made the chart or something, but it was a little offensive.
Post # 5
Are there a large number of these people? Is it possible to get their name from the person you are inviting? If not, i would put John Smith and Guest.
Post # 6
Many of the weddings I have been to listed it as John Smith and Guest – I was never insulted.
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s rude per se, but I believe the proper way to do this is to call your invitee and ask for the name of their guest.
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s rude to put “and guest” but I think it says alot when you go out of your way (not even by much) to find out the guests name. I actually had a guest approach me after the wedding and told me how happy their “plus one” was to see their name on the invitation and escort card. He said it made her feel really good and excited to come to the wedding. I think such a small act on your part can say so much =)
Post # 9
A hostess’s kind, personal attention is what distinguishes a gracious social affair from a commercial public event. Knowing your guests’ names is the minimum level of attention to detail that could be described as kind and personal. That these guests are being brought by some other guest makes no difference: all the guests who enter under your roof are *your* guests. By the most formal standards you would have found out their names even before sending invitations out, so that you could invite them yourself. But even if you skipped that detail, you would not want to omit the personal attention on your wedding night itself.
Post # 10
As has already been said, if you are able to find out the name of the significant other, I think that extra effort would really be appriciated. It doesn’t take very long to pick up a phone to call “John Smith” to ask.
Post # 11
The only time that it is okay to put “and guest” is when even your guest doesn’t know who they are bringing until it is feasibly too late to put it on the cards (like a day or two before, but even still then). Good luck!
Post # 12
Try to find out their names, but if you can’t I’d say So and So’s Guest (instead of party).
Post # 13
I would make every effort to find out the person’s name first. I guess if you really have difficulty tracking someone down – or that person is indecisive about who they are bringing – then you can go with the plan mentioned here. But I would make this Plan B, not the main plan.