(Closed) Is this rude?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
969 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@hollyberry4:  Yes it is rude, because honestly, if she didn’t like where she was sitting, she could move her chair to a different table.

When making a seating chart, you pretty much know who wants to sit where, but compromises need to be made because tables only fit so many chairs. 

I’d be annoyed.

Post # 4
717 posts
Busy bee

That’s annoying, you’re only really sitting during dinner.  Whatever, there are bigger matters to take care of besides her shenanigans.

Post # 5
1402 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@hollyberry4:  She sounds like an obnoxious control freak.

Just sit her where you were originally going to sit her and pay her no mind.

Post # 6
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014


Post # 8
5982 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@hollyberry4:  Beyond being rude, its also super dumb….I mean, is she so insecure and socially awkward that she can’t sit at a table with new people and eat???  That’s the neat thing about dinner parties and weddings anyway, you get to meet and chat with people you’ve never met, haven’t seen in a long time and make new connections…..

What a weirdo….

Post # 9
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@hollyberry4: Rude.  I had people calling me up telling me they couldn’t sit with so and so because they don’t along, or that they wanted to sit with so and so.  I wanted to tell them all to F- off and seat them in the back of the room all together.  Lucky for them, my mother did the seating chart and not me!

Post # 10
2573 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@hollyberry4:  It’s rude and also pretty pointless as everyone is usually mingling before the meal and only sits down for the meal then mingles again… Last wedding I was at, most of the chairs were empty most of the night b/c people were up and about.

Post # 12
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@hollyberry4:  Yeah, I don’t have the social skills of a brick wall, so if I don’t know anyone at my table I can make small talk.  Dinner only lasts an hour tops, then you can get up and move around. People are ridiculous!

Post # 13
13 posts
  • Wedding: April 2015

@hollyberry4:  Whoa. Rude, table for one! As PPs have said, seat her where you were originally going to. Some people…

Post # 14
9692 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@hollyberry4:  I do think it’s rude because guests don’t get a say over the seating plan. Obviously you will sit people who know each other together – you’re not an idiot. However, if it is part of her personality and you were planning to seat her with the people she requested anyway I would just let it go and move on.

Post # 15
1307 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@lolaswann:  Bahaha I love it!


OP: Yes it is kinda rude. She sounds kinda immature to write that. I would contact her and let her know who I am sitting her with (per my original plan). If that is not where she would like to sit then too bad.

Post # 16
1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would set up a tv tray and put her in the corner so she doesnt have to sit next to anyone she doesn’t know or like. 🙂 Biatch…

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