(Closed) Is this rude?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Uh yeah, they should know your name. It’s not something to be super upset over, but it was a huge oopsy on their part! If you’ve hung out with them, have friends in common and your Fiance is in the WEDDING PARTY, they should know your name. Facebook should have been their friend! Lol.

Post # 4
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1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I was trying to give them the benefit of the doubt until I saw that your Fiance is a groomsman.

Yeah, that’s a faux pas on their part FOR SURE.

Post # 6
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

Shame on them!!  Sounds like someone was very L.A.Z.Y and didn’t do what they should’ve.  When you sign their card, be sure to write Fiance name and guest to get “even”!  Wink

Post # 7
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@melisslp: Hahaha. Like.

That’s how you should RSVP too.

Post # 8
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426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

maybe they didn’t know how to spell your name and felt awkward asking..?  I’m trying to find the silver lining here, but I’m not really sure if there is one! 🙂

Post # 9
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@jayce: me too.

I have a cousin with a long term gf but I can’t ever remember her name, I have “and guest” next to their name right now, in my own database, but will get her name before I address the invites. I can see how one could get skipped, but not a groomsman.

Post # 10
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9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah, it’s probably not too much to ask that you find out the name of your groomsmen’s fiances.  But, not the end of the world.

Post # 12
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744 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It is rude but not such a big deal. They are just lazy or overwhelmed,I wouldn’t take it too personally

Post # 13
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641 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Happened to me this year, too.  FI and I have been together for 6 years (wayyyyy before the bride and groom got together, considering I set the groom up with one of my friends and they had a thing for a while at our 3 year mark).  FI was a groomsman, and I was listed as “guest” on the invite.

I was pissed at first, and just thought it was a little strange, and like others said, lazy.

Post # 14
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@AmeliaBedilia – Thanks!  Sometimes I can be a weisenheimer! 

@MissYogaPants – I actually think it would be a good “test” to RSVP Fiance name and guest to see if they’ll actually contact you to get your spelling for the place card/seating chart.  If not, then they deserve to feel foolish!  Keep us posted on what you decide to do…

Post # 15
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Silly people. 

Post # 16
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785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

The same thing happened to me!  Except the envelope was addressed to me and guest–so Fiance was ignored.  This came from my aunt and uncle, and what REALLY pissed us off is that my sister and her girlfriend were BOTH addressed by name on their invite–but they had only been together for about SIX MONTHS at the time, whereas Fiance and I had been together for FOUR YEARS.  My mom was pissed because we all felt that Fiance kinda gets ignored by my family, and this just felt like one more instance of him being forgotten 🙁

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