Post # 1
Ok so I have grown out of touch with some of my friends. Many of them have gotten married over the years but I wasn’t invited to any of their weddings. I usually heard about it through facebook or something. I wasn’t offended by this because we really hadn’t talked in a long time so I figured it really wasn’t a big deal. I’m making my guest list now and have gotten messages from these people saying things like “I better be on the guest list.” or “I better be invited too.”
Them not inviting me to their wedding wasn’t abig deal. Its their day they can do their thing and again we hadn’t talked in forever so I probably wasn’t high on the priority friends like (which is totally fine, it happens as life goes on) but now they are demanding I invite them. Am I being rude by telling them things like “Well I have limited space and family comes first” or something like that, because its true. I have a huge family and I can’t invite 400 people to my wedding least of all people I haven’t talked to in a year who are just now popping back up (it would seem like they only want to come for free booze or something) expecting to be invited. None of these people included a “Hey how are you doing? Haven’t talked in awhile?” type greeting either, it was just a demand to be invited. I know its my wedding and to invite who I want but I don’t like hurting people.
Post # 3
Oh wow, that’s awkward! I think the reply you came up with sounds good.
Post # 4
We had some of those too… I would simply ignore them.
Don’t post things/write things about your planning or talk to them about things like “how dress shopping was GREAT!”
and you should be fine.
Post # 5
No you are not being rude. They are. Your reply was very tactful. Good for you!
Post # 6
Ok thank you. I don’t like being unnecesarrily rude to people, but I just don’t feel like inviting people I haven’t talked to in a year or more. Even if I had the space I still wouldn’t feel like it. I hope that doesn’t make me seem like an ass, but when I fall out of touch with people I move on…
Post # 7
I just say “we’re having a smaller wedding, and family is taking up most of the guest list. we’re sorry we can’t include everyone.” the end. it’s none of their business if “small” is 30 people or 300 people. Just be polite, direct and honest and you’ll never be rude! 🙂
Post # 8
OMG, talk about RUDE! I can’t believe ANYONE would do that to you! And you think they’re your friends? I can see why you don’t hang out with them any more. Ms. Manners suggests a stunned cold stare, but since it’s electronic media, I would either ignore them completely or (seeing as you are so nice) reply the way your first instinct was with a polite, “NO WAY!” Have a happy wedding!
Post # 9
Yeah I thought it was way rude (and I use the word friends rather than “people I used to be friends with but haven’t talk to in a long time, because its shorter).
I’m glad you all support me on this. I don’t want to spend money on a courtesy invite or anything.
Post # 10
I really don’t think its necessary to invite someone that you don’t talk to, and saying family comes first is not rude to say either. What is the worst they can do, not be your friend? Because they were not really close to you to begin with. Or say something mean about you, and tell people that they were not invited to your wedding? Its not going to kill them that they didn’t go, and they will probably revert to their old ways after the wedding is over. So I would say don’t worry about what they think, and don’t invite them! Lol