Post # 1
I’m planning a bday party for my son (turning 7 years old) and plan to invite all his classmates and children of family friends for a laser tag party. The price is $16/per kid and I reserved up to 25 kids. I’m worried that people will bring siblings, meaning I will have to pay $16/per kid more. Is it rude to put on the Evite that if siblings are attending and planning on playing laser tag, it’s $16/per sibiling? I feel rude doing this but am already paying a lot and didn’t say siblings were invited and can’t afford to pay even more than I am planning.
Post # 3
I never assume both my children are invited to a party unless otherwise stated. I only bring the kid who got the invite.
Post # 4
For my daughter parties and parties she has attened I think it is pretty clear that only the child’s who’s name is on the inviation is invited. I wouldn’t think my other child would be invited to a birthday party for one of my other kid’s friend. I would just keep the name of the child invited on the invitation. Are you planning on parents staying or dropping off?
Post # 5
Damnit. I voted wrong (blonde moment). Turn one of the Yes’s to a No.
If you’re worried about offending, maybe put on the evite “For reservation purposes, please let me know if you will be bringing any other kids to play.” or something to that effect. Then, when they let you know about the additional child say “Great! That’ll be $16.”
Post # 6
I wouldn’t mention anything at all, since by mentioning the cost to them, it almost seems like you’re OK if they bring extras (as long as they want to play). What about feeding them all? If the siblings come along, what will you do as far as food and snacks? Provide for all of them or just the party invitees? Iwouldn’t even mention it. People with any brains won’t even consider bringing other kids if they aren’t invited.
Post # 7
Why would anyone assume that siblings are invited? If they feel the need to bring uninvited kids then they’re the rude ones, not you. I wouldn’t even mention anything on the invite since then you’re pretty much saying that it’s okay if these kids come, you’re just not paying for them. If I plan a party, uninvited guests are not welcome.
Post # 8
I don’t think that kids’ birthday parties rise to the level of formality of wedding invites, etc, and some people do get really weird about “oh hey, what’s one more kid?” So I think it’s all in how you say it — I’d go towards the semi-silly side and say something like “Food, drinks, and laser awesomeness are included — but if Mom, Dad or siblings want to pick up a laser gun and join in, the fee per game is $16.”
Post # 9
I think it all depends on how you word it. They should also let you know ahead of time to make sure you have enough space reserved for the party.
Post # 10
I voted yes because of the OP, saying it would go on the invitation. It’s really not good form to assume your guests will be rude in the invites that your guests receive! Yeesh. If someone asks to bring a sibling, tell them they’re not invited/say “ok but it’s $16.”
Post # 11
If the siblings aren’t invited, then they really shouldn’t even BE there. Period. If the parents bring them along anyway, then that’s on them. I think you’re doing them a favor saying it’s going to be XX amount for uninvited kids so that parent knows to have cash with them.
When my friend had a paint ball party for her 16th bday, we were all told that the first game was on her (mom), but if we wanted to play after that, it was $5/game. It’s not rude – it’s being realistic that this kind of stuff is expensive!
It’s not like you’re saying “Well, you need to pay for your extra kids’ cake/pizza.” It’s a per person thing, and it’s pricey.
Post # 12
Nope. it may feel akward for you on how to handle it, but you control the list of kids invited-not how many other children their parents have and want to bring.
Post # 13
My younger sister had a bowling party and invited her classmates, half of them had a sibling tag along. Needless to day my mom was not pleased that she ended up paying for an extra 10 kids my sister didn’t know. Including food and drinks. I would defintely say something in the invite.
Why would people do this? No idea. 🙁
Post # 14
Thanks ladies. A friend just sent us an Evite for her kid’s bday party and she told me that people are already bringing siblings that were not invited. So I started to get paranoid b/c it’s happened to me before but this is the first time I’m inviting my son’s entire kindergarten class (meaning more kids than our usual 5 friends with kids). 🙁
I don’t mind feeding extras b/c I expect that with parents coming also but it’s the extra $16 per kid that could add up to another $160+ b/c we invited 30 kids (I know not everyone will come but if they do, I’m prepared to pay for the extra 5 kids, just not 5 kids PLUS a bunch of siblings.
Post # 15
This is NUTS. I can’t believe that this is a thing or that it’s something that someone has to worry about.
What is wrong with people???!
Post # 16
I agree with you all. My friend wasn’t happy that people are already bringing siblings when their names were not included on the Evite and there was nothing on the Evite that said sibilings were invited. I have an only child so I thought maybe it’s something I’m just not familiar with but I do have friends with more than one kid and they said the same thing as all of you…they would never bring their other kids to a party where one was invited.