Post # 1
Talked to FI’s mom last night – she and a few of his aunts are throwing me a bridal shower, and I’m so excited! I didn’t expect to have one at all, since my side of the family isn’t likely to have one (my aunt is the party-planning person for the family, and she has made it clear that she thinks my mom should be the one to plan a shower and not her). I’m not really bothered one way or another about what my family does, but in talking to my aunt last night, she was all, well is our whole side of the family invited? It’s important that we be there too! (I knew I shouldn’t have brought it up at all, but I was really excited and I didn’t have anyone that I could share my excitement with. I didn’t want to make anyone feel bad.)
So my question is, would it be really rude of me to ask for my mom, sister and aunt to be invited to the shower? Is it just expected that they would be invited? Or do they have to throw their own if they want to be in attendance at a shower?
Sorry if these are dumb questions, I just don’t know the etiquette and I don’t want to make my family feel like they have to do anything for me if they don’t want to…
Post # 3
I think it’s fine to have your Mom, sister and Aunt. If you had any more than that I would say you should do a separate one with your fam but I think that’s fine!
Post # 4
It would be incredibly rude of your Future Mother-In-Law not to invite your family to your shower! Did she say anything that might lead you to believe they would not be invited?
Post # 5
I would expect that the people hosting your shower would ask you for a list of guests you would like to invite. I think it should be assumed that they would invite the important women in your family. If they don’t ask about it soon, you might want to let them know it would mean a lot to you.
Post # 6
A typical shower includes those women who are also invited to the wedding, so of course this would include your family 🙂
It’s not up to the hosts to decide who is invited, and typically they will ask you for a guest list.
Post # 7
Whenever I have been to bridal showers, both sides of the family are present, unless it’s strictly a work-sponsored shower or something of that nature. I would be really shocked if your fiance’s aunts are NOT inviting your mom, sister and aunt; I’m sure they will get invitations! 🙂
Post # 8
@busterbluth: No, she didn’t mention anything about NOT inviting my family. I’ve just never been to a bridal shower before and I didn’t know who all gets invited!
Thanks ladies! I feel better about this. I think they just started talking about it yesterday, so I won’t worry about it for awhile.
Post # 9
That’s so sweet they want to throw one for you! At some point, they will ask you for a guest list. I think it would be polite to ask them how many guests they would feel comfortable hosting. It might be a good idea to kind of brainstorm who you’d like to attend (including your family members). And, keep in mind you wouldn’t invite someone to the shower that isn’t getting a wedding invite. ENJOY being spoiled by your in laws! 🙂