(Closed) Is this rude or am I being sensitive??

posted 10 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Rude or not!?

    Yes... Call Miss Manners!

    No... Get over it!

  • Post # 3
    305 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    i agree. asking if your ring is real is very rude!!!!!! i’d politely tell them it is real and that it’s rude to ask that. no matter what though….rock your ring! its yours, its gorgeous, and its real!!!! the ones asking if its real are probably jealous.

    Post # 4
    826 posts
    Busy bee

    i toally agree. some people are just so rude! ive had that problem a lot. once this girl asked me to stick it in the fridge to see if it fogged up bcuz she didnt think it was real. I get the how many carats is it, what does ur fiance do blah blah blah. now i just tell them its costume jewelry and they seem to nod and stop with all the questions.

    Post # 5
    213 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Yeah, that’s pretty rude! I’m sure they don’t mean it to be rude, some people just have verbal diarrhea.

    Post # 6
    2057 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    No joke – I had no idea people really do this, I mean act that way – I have seen similar threads to this one and it shocks the sh– outta me, COME ON PEOPLE HAVE SOME COUTH…..

    Post # 7
    13562 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    First of all, it’s no one’s business whether your ring is real. So yes, it is very rude for them to ask that.

    But the last thing your Fiance wants is for you to keep your engagement ring in its box. Love it, wear it and defend it if you have to. If you’re firm, people will learn to back off and respect you and your ring!

    Post # 8
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    So rude! I haven’t had anyone do this, thank goodness. But I would NOT be happy!

    Post # 10
    362 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I had one girl ask me that.  I just looked at her and said “are your boobs real?”  That shut her up real fast.

    Post # 11
    2640 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think it kind of depends on how they say it.  Like sweetlikcake said, if their snippy about it, and say they “don’t think it looks real”, that’s just wrong.    My guess is they are jealous and trying to cut you down to make themselves feel better. IDK.

    But if they seem like they’re admiring it, and are just shocked or something, I would honestly just let it go.  Maybe they’re really impressed, and weren’t filtering their words properly.  Or couldn’t believe someone could have a rock that big. 

    Post # 12
    5262 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Wow, that’s just ridiculous! I haven’t had to deal with that, but I’d be pissed if I did. 

    I think it’s sad that it makes you not want to wear your ring, though! No one should stop you from wearing it proudly. It’s such an important symbol to me, though of course, it’s just that – only a symbol, and doesn’t make a relationship any “more.” 

    Post # 13
    5822 posts
    Bee Keeper

    My centerstone is 3 carats, so I get that question A LOT.  I usually answer with “nope, it’s actually a figment of your imagination!”  or “No, you’re hallucinating right now.”  Only one person persisted with the old “I mean is it a real diamond?”  To which they received a look.  THE look.  You know the one I mean.  The “You are an idiot” look.  Rude question gets rude response.  I’m just not classy enough to let their behavior go.

    I’ve never had someone try to take the ring off my finger (not that it’s possible anyway) but I would just yank my hand back if they did that and say “Excuse you!”  Some people are idiots, and they don’t realize it until you confront their behavior.

    Post # 14
    156 posts
    Blushing bee


    sorry you have to deal with that 🙁

    Post # 15
    5495 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    It is rude for them to ask, but I think that you should still wear you e-ring! Call them on it, I’d be pissed too!

    Post # 16
    995 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Girl, wear it with pride! I hear that a lot too but I try not to let it bother me. I even heard some biatch tell her friend that my ring I HAD to be fake. I’m not going to lie-that one pissed me off-but then I remembered that she had been with her boyfriend for a long time and she has NO ring. Whether she was jealous or not I don’t know-but thats what I tell myself to make me feel better about it 🙂 

    On a side note…several years ago my father gave me a white sapphire ring for my 21st birthday. I never wore it because it was the nicest piece of jewellery I had at the time and I was afraid to wear it. We moved and now I haven’t been able to find it for 4 years. I have pretty much given up hope. If I had wore it all of the time I wouldn’t have lost it and I so badly wish I could find it. Now I look at it as…the only way that I can REALLY appreciate my jewellery is to wear it. Don’t let people’s judgements stop you from being able to admire YOUR ring on YOUR finger 🙂

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