Post # 1
I’ve always been very against wearing my e-ring anywhere except social situations- mostly because of the reactions I get to my ring. Random women grab my hand & I’ve had a few women (who I barely knew!) even try to yank it off my finger to try it on. However, this week I decided to start wearing it all the time, even to work. Over the past week I must have had 10 people say “OMG your ring is so pretty… is it real?” I am tired of defending my e-ring & it makes me want to put it back in its box.
I think its totally rude to ask “Is it real?” and I would never be so brazen… what do you think?
Post # 3
i agree. asking if your ring is real is very rude!!!!!! i’d politely tell them it is real and that it’s rude to ask that. no matter what though….rock your ring! its yours, its gorgeous, and its real!!!! the ones asking if its real are probably jealous.
Post # 4
i toally agree. some people are just so rude! ive had that problem a lot. once this girl asked me to stick it in the fridge to see if it fogged up bcuz she didnt think it was real. I get the how many carats is it, what does ur fiance do blah blah blah. now i just tell them its costume jewelry and they seem to nod and stop with all the questions.
Post # 5
Yeah, that’s pretty rude! I’m sure they don’t mean it to be rude, some people just have verbal diarrhea.
Post # 6
No joke – I had no idea people really do this, I mean act that way – I have seen similar threads to this one and it shocks the sh– outta me, COME ON PEOPLE HAVE SOME COUTH…..
Post # 7
First of all, it’s no one’s business whether your ring is real. So yes, it is very rude for them to ask that.
But the last thing your Fiance wants is for you to keep your engagement ring in its box. Love it, wear it and defend it if you have to. If you’re firm, people will learn to back off and respect you and your ring!
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
So rude! I haven’t had anyone do this, thank goodness. But I would NOT be happy!
Post # 9
@miss ny: You’re right. Most of the people have been pretty kind when they ask! I guess my sensitivity comes from many, many, many comments from others!
Oh I’ve heard so many… It’s so big it looks fake, your Fiance must be making up for something, what did you do to deserve a ring like that, “my husband bought me this simple ring because he’s not flashy”, etc, etc. Seriously, it’s not like I have 10cts on my finger or anything!!!
Post # 10
I had one girl ask me that. I just looked at her and said “are your boobs real?” That shut her up real fast.
Post # 11
I think it kind of depends on how they say it. Like sweetlikcake said, if their snippy about it, and say they “don’t think it looks real”, that’s just wrong. My guess is they are jealous and trying to cut you down to make themselves feel better. IDK.
But if they seem like they’re admiring it, and are just shocked or something, I would honestly just let it go. Maybe they’re really impressed, and weren’t filtering their words properly. Or couldn’t believe someone could have a rock that big.
Post # 12
Wow, that’s just ridiculous! I haven’t had to deal with that, but I’d be pissed if I did.
I think it’s sad that it makes you not want to wear your ring, though! No one should stop you from wearing it proudly. It’s such an important symbol to me, though of course, it’s just that – only a symbol, and doesn’t make a relationship any “more.”
Post # 13
My centerstone is 3 carats, so I get that question A LOT. I usually answer with “nope, it’s actually a figment of your imagination!” or “No, you’re hallucinating right now.” Only one person persisted with the old “I mean is it a real diamond?” To which they received a look. THE look. You know the one I mean. The “You are an idiot” look. Rude question gets rude response. I’m just not classy enough to let their behavior go.
I’ve never had someone try to take the ring off my finger (not that it’s possible anyway) but I would just yank my hand back if they did that and say “Excuse you!” Some people are idiots, and they don’t realize it until you confront their behavior.
Post # 14
that is just RUDE RUDE RUDEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!
sorry you have to deal with that 🙁
Post # 15
It is rude for them to ask, but I think that you should still wear you e-ring! Call them on it, I’d be pissed too!
Post # 16
Girl, wear it with pride! I hear that a lot too but I try not to let it bother me. I even heard some biatch tell her friend that my ring I HAD to be fake. I’m not going to lie-that one pissed me off-but then I remembered that she had been with her boyfriend for a long time and she has NO ring. Whether she was jealous or not I don’t know-but thats what I tell myself to make me feel better about it 🙂
On a side note…several years ago my father gave me a white sapphire ring for my 21st birthday. I never wore it because it was the nicest piece of jewellery I had at the time and I was afraid to wear it. We moved and now I haven’t been able to find it for 4 years. I have pretty much given up hope. If I had wore it all of the time I wouldn’t have lost it and I so badly wish I could find it. Now I look at it as…the only way that I can REALLY appreciate my jewellery is to wear it. Don’t let people’s judgements stop you from being able to admire YOUR ring on YOUR finger 🙂