(Closed) Is this rude or am I being sensitive??

posted 10 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Rude or not!?
    Yes... Call Miss Manners! : (120 votes)
    81 %
    No... Get over it! : (29 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 32
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    This is another face palm moment with me saying “WHAT THE EFF IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE!?!”  Some people just say whatever, whenever with no reguard to others feelings!  This is right up there with people asking if you’re prego, if you’ve got a little chub on your belly. GAH! What is wrong with people?

    Post # 33
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    @phedre:  I love your response.  must file for later use.  heehee.

    to the OP.  yes those people are insanely rude and are supremely obnoxious. 

    Post # 34
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    That’s beyond rude! Smack their hand if they try to take it off you and ask them if theirs is real! 

    Sorry that just makes me so angry!! But I do still think you should wear it! It shows you are now off limits! 

    Post # 35
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    230 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @phedre: awesome. That’s the sort of response I’d only think of 5 hours too late.

    Post # 37
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think that is exceptionally rude behavior and I’m sorry you have to deal with it!! I hope that you’ll feel comfortable enough to wear your ring wherever you want whenever you want πŸ™‚

    I had a coworker once who probably encountered a very similar situation to you. Her center stone is 3 karats (And here, I just want to clarify that I did NOT ask her for that info–she volunteered it at a much later time). When I first noticed her wearing it, I politely commented to her “Your ring is stunning!” (It is!) She immediately seemed to get very embarrassed and started almost apologizing for why it was so big and beautiful. I felt so guilty for accidentally making her feel that way, but I think a lot of people must have been commenting on its size previously so she was self conscious.

    I hope that she and you eventually figure out the best way to cope with people who are rude about it! πŸ™‚

    Post # 38
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think that asking that is horrible! Miss Manners would not be happy!!  I would wear it whenever I wanted to!  Don’t let these ill-mannered people stop you. That being said, now I’m curious, can you post a picture of your ring?  πŸ™‚

     

    Post # 39
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @Abbee When I first got my ring somebody said something about it being improper to have a non-diamond ring (FI got my birthstone instead) and I was like “Face palm”, but they didn’t get it forever! Two days later they called and were like, wow, I’m really a b*tch sometimes, huh?

    Anyway, I’d say wear it and if somebody tries to take it, just start yelling bloody murder and ask why they would try to steal your ring. That will get them cold and everyone around will be like WTH, why would you do that. Embarassing people helps a lot in these situations to make them realise that they are in the wrong.

    Post # 40
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    One of my coworkers is in the same boat–her husband gave her a 3 carat ring and she was embarassed to wear it around the office because it’s so big and gorgeous. And people have made comments to her as well. She eventually got used to it and wears it all the time.

    I say rock it. Your fiance could afford to get you a gorgeous ring. You would love it just as much if it were 1/2 carat, love it as it is, that’s my opinion. Put the haters in their place (kindly and subtley if they’re clients of course, overtly if they need it) and wear your ring.

    Post # 41
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    Um, seriously some people suck.  But don’t keep that gorgeous ring in a box!! Think how it must feel!  Dejected, alone, unloved….let it live in the light!  And I would like to apologize on behalf of my fellow smaller-e-ring-owners.  I don’t know why others feel the need to make excuses as though having a smaller stone (my center stone is about .75ct) is a travesty of monumental proportions.  We bought the ring that worked for us, our budget, etc.  I would think it the HEIGHT of rudeness for someone to comment on it being small–so why is it any less rude to comment on how big and unreal someone’s ring looks?  Some people, I swear….

    And I second danaadell–can we see pics now?  We’re curious about the ring that’s causing all this ruckus!

    Post # 42
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Years ago I read where Ms. Manners suggested that inappropriate questions be responded to with the question, “Why do you ask?” I love this! It turns the tables and very subtlely deflects the burden. Try it.

     

     

    Post # 43
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @bestforlast – oooooh I will have to try that one… my FH makes a decent wage but I fear that since we are young (22) that people will constantly be asking me if my ring is real!

    Post # 44
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    People are just really rude. I’m really skinny and people always ask me if I throw up my food or if I have an eating disorder-I know that if they actually THOUGHT I had an eating disorder, they would never ask and it’s probably the same thing with your ring. They know it’s real and they want to hurt your feelings. I just say yes and then they laugh uncomfortably.

    Post # 45
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would say, “no.  it’s fake” in a deadpan voice.

    Post # 46
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    OMG people are so stupid.  I had a woman ask me if my ring was real and I just said, “Yup, would you like to see my appraisal?”  She shut up.  I think some women are just weird about rings some times and their minds go out the window.  As for grabbing the ring and wanting to try it on—holy crap they would get smacked I swear.  Your friend is totally jealous about the ring too.  Have you talked with her to stop making the snide remarks about it being fake? 

    So, this ring, can we see it?!  HAHA  Now I really want to see it.  Please πŸ™‚

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