(Closed) Is this rude or understandable?

posted 5 years ago in Guests
  • poll: Requesting guests refrain from using their phone until after the ceremony


    Not rude

  • Post # 2
    7440 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Not rude. Many ask to have a tech free ceremony and for guests to enjoy the precious moment it is. 

    Edit- there are many threads on here on the best way to word it.

    Post # 4
    293 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

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    eliii90 :  We went with “Sand T are very excited to be sharing this day with you. When they look out, they’d like to see your smiling faces, not your phones and cameras. S and T have hired a wonderful photographer and videographer whose job is it to capture how the ceremony looks, you are invited to capture how the ceremony feels. At this time, please turn off your devices and put them away.”

    Post # 5
    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I agree with you, it’s annoying. You get the odd person who’s left their flash on. Or click click click of iPhone cameras. Then little children screaming because they want to play games on said phones. And photos of the bride on FB before the ceremony is even over. To have phones out during the ceremony is rude I think! 

    Post # 6
    96 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    Oh whoops! I voted rude thinking it was about guests having their phone out, not asking them to put it away.
    Definetly not rude!

    Post # 7
    894 posts
    Busy bee

    Not rude. It’s your wedding! If they really cared to come, they should put some thought into how you feel too.

    Post # 8
    6257 posts
    Bee Keeper

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    eliii90 :  Not rude, but you might regret it in the long run.  Things happen with photographers and cameras often enough that it’s nice to know there’s a little backup from friends and family.  I posted on our wedding website that I understood why people wanted to take pictures, but that I’d also like for them to limit the quantity and enjoy the ceremony.  Some of my favorite pics weren’t taken by our photographer but rather by a friend of mine with an iPad.  Heck, I didn’t even notice during the ceremony itself, I was all about my husband, not the audience.

    So just consider that while it’s unlikely your photographer’s cat is going to kick the drive with your wedding pictures onto a magnet, or that they’ll switch out who you expected with an untried intern, stranger things have happened.  Do you want to risk no photos at all?

    Post # 9
    1949 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I requested an unplugged ceremony and it was fine.  We had our request in the program and then our officiant made a bried announcement asking everyone to turn off their cameras and devices.

    Post # 10
    331 posts
    Helper bee

    It’s not rude at all. I’ve seen far too many people upset, because of people with cell phones blocking the photographers shot than I have of people getting super good quality shots from cellphones. The worst case I saw a was the brides father wasn’t visible in the professional photos, because someone was leaning out of their chair into the aisle to get a photo of the bride walking down the aisle. At my first wedding, I had to ask my uncle before the ceremony not to take photos, because the photographer let me know that his flash was interfering with her test shots. 

    Now don’t get me wrong, I know a friend whose friend had to reach out to guests for photos, because the photographer had some type of malfunction & their photos were lost, but statistically speaking, you are more likely to have a shot ruined by a guest with a cell phone than a photographer lose all the photos. Also if you find a photographer that uses 2 photographers at the event (really common in my area) then you should be able to avoid any real loss of photos if something happens to one of the photographers camera or memory card. 


    Post # 11
    1740 posts
    Bumble bee

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    eliii90 :  I think one little sign is okay (those unplugged signs), but making an announcment or trying too hard to enforce it if they don’t heed the sign is too much (IMHO) 

    Post # 12
    9436 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Eh, I’m not a fan of it and I’d roll my eyes but I’m not going to get all offended and pearl-clutchy about it.

    For what it’s worth we didn’t do this and our pictures are amazing, there’s only one where you can even see a cell phone and that’s because I was specifically looking. And for 1.5 months all I had were guest pictures and that helped keep me sane while waiting for my pro-pics! And I’ve never experienced a wedding where people taking pictures caused problems (like blocking views or being in the way) so it just seems like unnecessary request.

    And I did ask my photographer about it and he assured me it’s his job to work around people and he knows how to do it.

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