(Closed) Is this rude? Should I take her out?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3265 posts
Sugar bee

@iMechie:  You are upset because a 2nd tier guest who you only invited becuase others couldn’t make it, was unable to make it to the shower because she didn’t have time to go, and didn’t know where it was ? 

I’m sorry, you are over reacting.  She can decline to go for whatever reason.  It would be impolite of you now  to rescind her invitation.

Post # 6
7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

So…because this “after-thought becuase one guest couldn’t make it and you needed to fill seats” person said she can’t come to your shower you don’t want her at the wedding? What are you going to do about the people that RSVP’d to your shower and then don’t show? Uninvite them?

I definitely think you are overreacting.


Post # 9
709 posts
Busy bee

Aw nuts, you’re only getting one gift out of this woman instead of two.

Post # 11
3265 posts
Sugar bee

@iMechie:  Maybe she didn’t love that she was an after thought guest.  Maybe that is why she didn’t exactly jump with joy, to give you another present.

Showers are really meant to be nearest and dearest, people who couldn’t imagine not celebrating your wedding with a token gift.  This lady really doesn’t fit the bill.

Post # 14
282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I don’t think you should be upset, as pp mentioned the shower is only for family and close friends. She probably feels that she will be out of place. 

Don’t take her out of the wedding and just let it go. Its not an issue worth stressing over. 

Post # 15
1227 posts
Bumble bee

Maybe wedding showers aren’t her thing. Let it go

Post # 16
2395 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Maybe her response was rude, but even more rude would be you taking away your invitation because she was rude to you…and as I read that, it actually sounds quite childish.  Be happy she wants to celebrate with you and move on.

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