(Closed) Is this rude to expect of 200 guests?

posted 9 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Wow!! Did he book at the last minute? I am going to assume that the question is would it be rude to ask parents to pay $4K for a destination wedding? If so…I don’t think it’s rude if enough notice is given to get good deals. For a Destination Wedding, giving your guests a year to plan would be a good thing. Most resorts also give discounted rates if you can guarantee a certain amount of guests will attend. However, if it’s last minute, I am sure the bride and groom will understand that not everyone will be able to afford to spend that much cash for a Destination Wedding…especially not in this economy.

As far as the wedding being not legal…that makes me think even more that this is a last minute thing. My Fiance and I are getting married in Jamaica and it will be 100% legal. We had to have our paperwork submitted at least 60 days in advance and we have already received confirmation that all of the neccesary paperwork has been filed…we just have to fulfill the 24 hr residency requirement when we get there.

Post # 5
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216 posts
Helper bee

I’m not sure if I’d attend if I were him.    I find this whole situation odd because I paid $1100 WITH AIR AND HOTEL from San Francisco to Montego Bay Jamaica last year.       I photographed a wedding there and my boyfriend went with me ( $1100 each at a 3 star all inclusive resort ).     I paid $100 for a cab to take me to the north side of the island and back ( bf drove with me for safety ) to do the wedding.       Those were our total costs.   We used expedia.

Post # 6
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235 posts
Helper bee

There are some really great deals out there…and Jamacia is not nearly as expensive as some other locations.  Perhaps point him in the direction of cheapcaribbean.com?  A quick search for a PACKAGE (flight and hotel) for less than two weeks from now (from Philadelphia) was $525 a person…

Post # 7
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188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We are having a destiantion wedding too, and we have decided to just do whatever we wnat how we want. hopefully a lot of people will be able to make it, but i understand if they cant. its just something to have to expect if you want to go away for a wedding. 

 

although we did originally want Mexico but didn’t want for everyone to have to worry about passports and the language thing (not a tourist type city). 

Post # 8
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2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

That is outrageous! I think he SHOULD go, after all its his sister but I think its ridiculous to extend that invite to 200 people and expect them all to be there. Perhaps that was intentional? Make it ridiculously difficult to be a guest will cut down on ppl actually there thus making their costs less? who knows…

Post # 9
Bee
11896 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

Yes, that is rude!  Totally ridiculous!  They should have planned better.

Post # 10
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1220 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Me thinks that we haven’t heard the whole story, especially since this is his sister’s wedding.  If he’s waited until the last minute to book anything, then it’s his own fault for having it be $4000 v probably $2k.  

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Miss Sapphire….that’s what I was thinking…either the wedding was last minute for the couple (based on the “not legal” aspect of it), the couple arranged expensive accomodations to meet a resort minimum, or the brother waited until the last minute to actually book.

Post # 13
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Nlmiele….yeah…that should be plenty of time to find something reasonable. Rates may be a little higher since August is a part of peak travel season in the U.S. but if he works with a travel agent…he shouls be able to find something for less than 4k. My suggestion would be to book the rooms now…and wait until it gets closer to book the flights as he will probably be able to find some last minute deals on flights.

Post # 14
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412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wow.  I can’t imagine they would expect 200 people to be able to afford that type of travel costs.  Perhaps they were just inviting them all so that no one was left out.  Maybe there is a way to stay at a nearby hotel and get a better deal.  

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