(Closed) is this rude/against etiquette or good to go? (wedding invitations)

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would not fill in the “M line”. We discovered that people returned that line filled in with different variations of the name we addressed the invitation to- i.e. we missed putting Dr. for a few people who were PhDs, someone who we have always known as Dave, and had no idea his actual name was David, returned it as Mr. David Smith. We used the spelling/form of addressing that people wrote on the card to make our seating cards.

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Now I’m not sure. I want to save money by hand delivering invites but half says it’s tacky and half says ok.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

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@vangough:  Why is it “tacky?”

Post # 20
Hostess
1425 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s fine to hand deliver, but make sure the RSVP envelope is stamped so they can return the RSVP back to you in the mail.

Also I don’t think the prefilling seats is tacky; it prevents people from inviting extra people although some will ignore and just cross it off and change it. Or fill in 3 of 2 will attend and list 3 people’s names.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I prefer get them mailed. that way I I don’t lose them in my purse between there and home.

 

I think putting “we have reservced # seats in your honor” is a wonderful idea, and then leave a line for them to say how many will be coming.

 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - W Hotel Silicon Valley

@loverlylane:  I don’t see anything wrong with that! I pre-filled in the names on the RSVP cards too–this helped with people forgetting to write their name–which, believe it or not, happens quite often! 

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

If you really want to make sure no one sneaks in a guest, another bee did this (last names were edited out)- sorry, I don’t remember who the original bee was, to give credit to.

 

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@FauxPas2012:  I don’t know but a few people in another thread said so. Some people in this thread don’t like it either

Post # 25
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1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@loverlylane:  lol at ninja invite. I think it’s a good idea but second that you should mail out the invitations, unless you live with the person.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@vangough:  I think it depends on where you are. We handed out lot of our invites because 

1. There were so many and it would have been way more expensive to mail them

2. There were a lot of addresses we didn’t have

3. It was a very casual affair.

I don’t think anyone was offended, if they were they didn’t mention it. Even my husbands fairly formal mom didn’t object. 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I believe ettiquite wise, it is fine to hand out invites. However, I wouldn’t unless you make an effort to see the person. Handing them out at a social event like someone’s dinner party takes the attention away from them and puts it on you. Knocking on their door or sliding the envelope through the mail slot is fine.

Post # 28
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476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’ve seen them before that read something to the effect of “We have Saved X Seats for You” and then the

Name___________________________

__ will attend

__ declines with regret

 

 

Personally, I think that’s fine.

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

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@rebwana:  Love the personalized RSVP idea. However, we had our invites printed by a stationery company. They never would’ve allowed me to have each individual rsvp card printed like that without a hefty fee for the extra labor. 

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