(Closed) Is this stealing my thunder????

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

WHAT?!?  Why is he going to be at the bachelorette party?  Isn’t it supposed to be just for the ladies?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

Just curious… is this the same BM/boyfriend you had a problem with before?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

WTF?  No… it is a bachelorette! Just the girls, and she doesn’t want your bachelorette party as her proposal memory –that would suck!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

That would be a terrible engagement story!  There may be a tactful way to alert him of that fact….

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Don’t even get me started — I haven’t blogged about mine yet.. but here is the short version. YES– I was stressed up until my third pear-vodka martini –then I didn’t stress about anything. I found out  6 days before it was scheduled that my moh who was planning it never invited anyone!!!!  One of my other bm’s ended up planning the whole thing on the Monday before, calling everyone and apologizing for the late notice.  Because of this, what I had originally wanted did not happen, and a large number of my friends were not there because they had made other plans.  I ended up having fun — but it was not what should have happened and I am still very upset with my Maid/Matron of Honor (yes, we’ve talked about it) and I have an entire group of friends that want to take me out after the honeymoom because they missed the bachelorette — they are all also very po’d at Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

Tell him he can do it if he pays the portion of the cancelled bridesmaid  

Post # 10
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Helper bee
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  • 10 years ago

Like someone said….your friend might not want your bachelorette to be her engagement story…talk about stealing HER thunder! How romantic would that be if she’s wasted??? Alert him…his gf might want something more romantic!

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2009

ABSOLUTELY…it would be stealing your thunder. I agree with the other ladies that he shouldn’t be there anyways because it should be all girls. Also, him proposing at your bach. party is like proposing at the wedding. I am sure he can find plenty of other "moments" to propose to her!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2008

Although i agree its not a very romantic place for him to propose, i don’t think it would steal your thunder.  You have a whole weekend for your bachelorette, you cant expect every waking momen of that for all attention to be on you.   The point of your bachelorette is to have fun with your girlfriends and celebrate being single one last time.  I don’t see how him suprising his girlfriend and proposing would be that big of a deal.   Maybe he could do it the last day or something?   I think it would be wierd if he proposed and then wanted to stay the night or something, since its supposed to be all girls, but not becuase it takes attention away from you…thats kind of zilla if you ask me

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I don’t think it’s stealing your thunder. I actually think it’s a really sweet thought but it’s not a very romantic proposal. You might want to mention to him that you think he should do it on a more romantic weekend. But as far as thunder stealing, I suggest you be happy for your friend. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

@NCB2B: Call me crazy, but isn’t a bachelorette party thrown in the bride’s honor? And by extension, doesn’t that make the bachelorette about the bride? The OP never said that she wasn’t happy for her friend (in fact, she’s allowing it to happen!), just that she wasn’t pleased about the situation. That doesn’t make her a zilla.

My 2 cents: what would your friend say if she knew about it? My guess is that she wouldn’t want him to do it — isn’t it strange to do it at a bachelorette (talk about mixed messages?). Since you’ve already told him that you’re okay with it, I’d give him a few (more creative) proposal ideas and help him orchestrate something really special for your friend.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t think so. Once the initial "oh my gosh, you’re engaged!" flush passes, the focus will be back on you and your wedding – the one with all the details to talk about, the one that will be happening soon.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

ask him to make it a special day for her. so to get a  better moment and not inbetween yr party, as she would not get all the deserved attention as u r the bride.

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